Do you have the right to judge another - Day 531

Not too long ago, I wrote a blog post about 'Gossiping' A piece of gossip - Day 528 where I redefined 'Gossiping' as speaking or thinking about someone while not daring speaking the same words in front of that person. Since then, I've been looking deeper at the design of gossiping and I found a few interesting things that I would like to share here today.

Have you ever noticed how much gossiping is actually going on in your mind? How much judgement and blame it projected towards people in your direct and indirect environment? It can be the smallest judgement as "look at what they wear, I will never wear this" to: "I can't believe they behaved this way. I will never do it" to: "What's wrong with her/him, they completely ignored me today, this is rude" and so one and so forth.

Now, is it not that one of our greatest concerns is being judged by others. There is constant part of us thinking what other people may be thinking about us. Why is that? Why would we be afraid and concern about what other people says about us in their mind? Is it not because of us knowing that we are doing the exact same thing, judging the person standing/speaking in front of us, in our mind, allowing the inner gossip to continue at the same time we are concerned about being judged by another. lol

So on its purest form, we are concern or afraid being judged by others, because we know what we accept and allow as judgement, to exists inside of ourselves and because we know how nasty that judgement can be, we are concern about the potential nastiness coming through in another's mind, this time, towards us. Isn't it?
 

How about an experiment - stop participate in judgement and see if you afraid of being judged. How to support yourself to stop participating in judgement towards others?

In a discussion that I had with a friend the other day, hearing them judging their employees, I asked them to stop for a moment so that we can discern the situation on a deeper level. I then asked them a question: Can you self-honestly and unconditionally place yourself in their shoes, within their mind, within the consideration of who they are, where they came from, their cultural design, their education, their life experiences and so on.. Can you then, as them, participate in judgement? Or can you now suggest solutions?

This is such a powerful tool because for the first time, you actually understand that you have no right to judge another, before you are able to unconditionally and absolutely place yourself in their shoes and provide/suggest solutions to the problems that you became aware of. Unless you can do that, unless you can step out of your own judgemental mind and place yourself in another's shoes, you have no right to judge.

I have placed a few red flags for myself lately, and that is standing as a great support in my process of stopping any and all gossiping both internally and externally. The flags are:

1. Can you say the same thing directly to the person?

2. Can you turn the point back to yourself and see that you are doing the exact same thing you judge another in doing?

3. Can you place yourself in their shoes, absolutely and unconditionally?

4. Can you stand as your and theirs support structure?

You will find that by asking these questions, you will already be one step closer to your stability. Because you have taken the responsibility to question yourself, and what you accepted and allowed yourself to participate with in your mind. Moving to the solution would be your next step.. Solution as in - how to best support myself and another in the discussed situation? That would be something that may come more naturally once you stand in their other's shoes, without any judgement.

Let's continue exploring these points and see what comes up.. You are more than welcome to leave your comments

A piece of gossip - Day 528

Most people define gossip as a conversation that is based on judgment of someone who is not presence.

There are many reasons as to why people gossip but primarily it is because of:

1. Projecting superiority - some people feel that by saying negative things about others, they feel or seen as superior by those who the gossiping is discussed with.
2. Jealousy - people may gossip about those they compare themselves with out of jealousy towards them. This gives them a temporary feeling of being 'more than'.
3. Getting attention - some people get to be the center of attention temporarily while exposing a piece of information about others.
4. Spite, anger - people may deliberately gossip about other people when they feel hurt or betrayed by another.

5. Boredom - In situations where people are lacking knowledge or personal experience that could support a discussion with another, they move to gossip to draw some attention.

But interestingly enough, what most of us do not consider is that gossiping in primarily done… wait for it… in our HEADS!

In our minds, in our little space where no one can listen, we allow ourselves to gossip, and gossip and gossip and.. How many times do we actually stop the train of gossip and ask ourselves - "but where are these thoughts are coming from? Why am I carrying this negative talk about others in my heads?"

So regardless if we gossip externally or internally, we most likely to participate in gossip on a daily basis. One thing is certain - as long as we carry judgement towards ourselves or others, we can be sure we are accepting and allowing gossiping to be a part of our reality. We can be sure that we are not standing as a point of direction and support towards ourselves or others.

There are many resources that explain the design of gossip so I am not going into it. Instead, this blog will focus on

how to support yourself to identify gossip and how to become aware in real time moment to stop participating with gossip.

Identifying gossip:

My rule of thumb is answering the questions: "Will I say the same things that I am saying now or thinking now, if the person I am speaking/thinking about was presence?"

If I can't stand by my words or thoughts and share my thoughts/words with the person the internal/external conversation is about then, ladies and gentlemen, we are dealing with the design of gossip and not with a principle of self-honesty and the support of one another.

From here, you must take the point into self-introspection: it is obvious that you are reacting to the other person in one way or another - identify the type of reaction you are carrying and direct yourself towards a solution. For more support with that, please visit DIP Lite - Life Skills & Self-Mastery Online Courses.

Changing a pattern in real time moment support

For more context, please also read: Day 567: Authority and Consequence – Part 1.

Becoming aware in real time moment that you are participating in a specific design is a bit tricky because usually by the time you become aware of this, it's almost "too late" in the sense of you are already in it.. Within the context of gossiping, by the time you are aware of your participation with gossip, you are already in the heart of gossip discussion.

What I find supporting me with becoming aware of gossiping is by working with my own mind - slowing down and observing the thoughts that contain the nature of gossip. This allows me to see the type of reaction that I carry, the nature of the emotion and from there I can stop my participation with the gossip type thoughts and direct myself towards the solution, starting with self-forgiveness.

Within that, I am able to support myself to stop my participation in real time moment when I find myself participating in a gossip based conversation as well as supporting others when they are participating in gossip. Obviously - this take practice, patience and the ability to forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes and commit to change this destructive pattern but the more you practice a skill, the better you become.

Essentially, I use the rule of thumb here as well, when I become aware that there is a potential for a conversation to go into the direction of gossip, I stop and ask myself "Will I say the same things that I am saying now or thinking now, if the person I am speaking/thinking about was presence?". Then I know whether I stand in relation to the one who is being gossiped.

So to answer the questions How to become aware in real time moment that you are participating with gossiping? I would say it is a matter of getting to know your mind and introspecting the design of gossip so that you are able to identify when and why you have or still are participating with gossip. Then, walk through a process of self-forgiveness - forgive yourself for accepting and allowing the design of gossip to be a part of who you are, take responsibility and authority for this design so that you are able to make the decision to stop your participation. Now that you made it your goal to change in real time moment - you already placing awareness as a red flag inside of you to alert you when gossiping is happening. So you practice this point until you change and no longer directed by gossiping but rather by principles that would support yourself and everyone else, to the best of your ability.For more support, please invest time in DIP Lite - Life Skills & Self-Mastery Online Courses.

The Death of Experiences - Day 58

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realize that when I hear another's past experience description, I associate the description with my own pre-program designs as the desires of energetic experiences and thus, come up with a conclusion of how I would experience the experience within myself to the extent to which I will allow myself to direct my life in the attempt to get the perceived experience  with no directive awareness of 'Who I am' in every moment of every breath.

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realize that any experience that one is seeking and desiring for is due to one's past:  either through one's own past memory experience data base that one is holding onto or either for example, when one has heard another's description of an experience which then thus, one has associated it with one's own pre-program information data base, shaped and mould the experience within one's own frame of reference and eventually, imprinted the desired experience into one's flesh. Within that, I forgive myself that I haven't seen, realized or understood that those pasts memory experience imprints are controlling and enslaving our present and Future instead of us being the directive principle 'HERE' walking our living physical expression in every moment of every breath according to that which is best for all.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself to have failed to see that desire for an experience is always contain with self interest where one will first consider oneself and disregard everyone else as long as one can hold onto a momentary illusion of energy high, despite of the fact that once the energy high will fade away, one will remain with an unfulfilled experience of oneself and will immediately seek for the next self interest energy source to feed self with. 

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realize that within my pursuit of self interest desires/experiences, I'm abdicating my responsibility to walk with and as myself breath by breath as a living expression of who I am with no strings attached to my past, present or future.

 

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself to fear letting go the desire for an experiences because that is the only thing that I've known myself to be and I forgive myself that I haven't allowed myself to take a moment and test the point for myself and see who I am as an undefined expression of myself.

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to see that 'who I am' as an accumulation of desires for specific types of experience is not a physical living  expression of LIFE but rather a zombified expression that is limited to a programed memory data base that I lived out in automation state with no directive awareness.

I forgive myself that I've not allowed myself to realized that who I am as energy is not real, it's not LIFE and unless I stop that illusion of me as energy desires for experience, nothing of me will remain when I die as energy can last for so long before it diminish.

“Unless the past pass over -- you will pass over before the past is over”  ~ Bernard Poolman

  (for further context, read this blog - Day 56: The Past is Over)

I commit myself to remain in breath when and as I hear another experience and to not accept and allow myself to drift off into my own mind in the attempt to associate that which I hear to my own memory data base and connect my inner desires to the word that I perceive I'm hearing, as well as, not accepting and allowing myself to imprint the discussion into my flesh as the desires that I have within and as myself and I therefore, support myself to stop creating and recreating  the desires as energy experiences within and as myself.

Within that, I commit myself to stand in breath when and as I'm communicating with other people and to not accept and allow myself to direct myself within the conversation through past memories data base but rather direct myself as who I am, as unconditioned/unlimited expression of myself.

I commit myself to stop the inner desires of energy experiences within and as myself and to rebirth myself as the physical expression of who I am that is not define in anyway according to Energy. and to do that, I commit myself to investigate the creation of myself as energy experience through looking at why/where/when/how I've lost myself to energy and accordingly walk the correction through self forgiveness application in self honesty.

I commit myself to transform my inner self interest desires to practical and physical action which support everything and everyone within and as the principle of that which is best for all and those actions can be cross reference and measured according to the affect/outcome.

I commit myself to for give myself an eternal LIFE that is Physical, constant and infinite by investigating every aspect of me that I've defined according to energy experience, let it go, correct my living application through a process of self forgiveness in self honesty.

The Secret War between Women - Mother Daughter relationship - Part 3 - Day 55

This is a continuation to:

The Secret War between Women - Overview - Day 52

The Secret war between Women - the Childhood years - Part 1 - Day 53

The Secret War between Women starts at home - Part 2 - Day 54

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to see the influential consequences of the dynamics between the Mother/Daughter relationship and the secret war between Women, where the first War would be between the Mother and the child for example would manifest when and as the child 'perceives' the authority of the mother to be too rigid/not understanding/unsupportive and would then thus, develop back chat towards the mother which eventually externalized and become a habit in one's life towards other female that represent the mother figure in one's life.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to use my authority upon my child without walking with them the time line so that they could see the common sense equality equations for themselves and I have failed to realized that when I'm playing the authority game with them, it is inevitable they will create a resistance towards me and would then thus,  develop their rebellion war against me as a response to my authority game - the beginning of the Secret War between Women.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself, as a mother in this world, to for example, superimpose my fears onto my daughter and would forbid her to participate in social gathering which I've defined as inappropriate or dangerous without taking a moment to look in a practical common sense way whether my fears has any ground in the physical reality due to me that have inherited my fears from my parents which then influenced me within how I would direct points in my world instead of supporting myself to first turn the point back to myself, allocate my starting point and support myself to see the points directly through practical Self Forgiveness and corrective application.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to NOT realize, that by not communicating with my daughter through explaining in common sense why I believe that my daughter should not walk a specific path and thus forbid her from walking it by using my mother authority, my daughter will resist my authority and create a backchat/thoughts/internal conversations/reactions towards me which would perpetuate the secret war between women already at home.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself to superimpose my failure within my Life onto my child , fearing that they will also fail, wherein I will teach her how to not make the same mistakes as I did and thus push her to excel in all areas of LIFE to have the best from all - Man, Career, children, clothes, friendships etc. and within that, I have failed to realize that my desires are not my child's desires and by me forcing her to walk a specific path which is not her own, she will create and manifest resistance towards my up bringing of her exactly as I have done towards my mother and within that, continue the cycle of War between women - mother/daughter generation after generation.

I commit myself to show the relationship between the superimposed authority of the mother upon her daughter and the secret war between women and within that, I commit myself to support mothers to learn how to upbringing their children in the utmost effective way by first sorting themselves to be able to stand as an example for their children, be able to understand themselves as their children and to walk in equality with them in absolute support for them to become effective human beings in this world.

I commit myself to show and explain in details the consequences of the existential inherited fears from generation after generation from the beginning of time and present, stand as a support for those who dare investigating themselves and physically/practically change according to principles of that which is best for all.

I commit myself to present technics and methods to support the parents with the upbringing of their children and to stop, for once and for all the abusive superimpose  authority upon children  and instead, establish a supportive relationship with them that will be based on self respect, trust and honesty.

The Secret War between Women starts at home - Part 2 - Day 54

This is a continuation to:

The Secret War between Women - Overview - Day 52

The Secret war between Women - the Childhood years - Part 1 - Day 53

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to see that the war between women starts at home - between Mother/daughter and/or sisters and I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to support the secret war between women through me standing as an example of competition, comparison, gossiping, jealousy and judgment and within that, I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realize that by me standing as an example of competition, comparison, judgement and jealousy, I'm imprinting those components into my child's mind and then, my child will design and program herself accordingly wherein she would compete, compare and judge other women in her world either internally or externally.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a child in this world to compete with my siblings for the love of my parents within the desire of being loved the most through which I have created multiple personalities, habits and mannerism which I've carried with me later on within the world system wherein I will secretly fight with other women for the love and attention of men and thus, allow myself to participate in my secret mind within spiteful and judgmental thoughts to elevate my experience of myself and talk myself into the belief that I'm better, superior and more than other women in this world.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a child in this world, to believe I must compete for my parents attention with my siblings and thus, created from a very young age back chat in the nature of comparison, competition, jealousy, spitefulness and judgement towards my siblings which later than, I've externalized the back chat towards other beings in my life because I've taken for granted the competitive nature of me through walking the example of those who have come before me.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a parent in this world to support the internal and external competition that my daughters are participating with to get my love and attention and despite of seeing how it's playing out and the experience of my daughters within themselves, I have allowed them to continue participating with comparison/competition without giving them practical tools to face that which they face as well as explaining them the design of competition/comparison because I perceived those components to be normal, important and valid without taking a moment for myself, to investigate and introspect myself to see the core/origin/source of competition/comparison and accordingly, stop myself, change myself and stand as an example for my children so that they could empower and grow themselves instead of becoming lesser human beings in this world in a full and separated integration with their mind.

I commit myself to show how back chat in the nature of competition, comparison, jealousy, judgment and spitefulness are being programmed in the first 7 years of children's lives and how the parents are responsible for the imprint and creation of the child's backchats through the example the parents are standing as.

I commit myself to be attentive and aware of my children attempt to win my love and attention over their siblings and within that, explain to my children the games they are allowing in their mind, the consequences of such participation, as all as providing them with practical tool to assist and support themselves throughout their lives.

I commit myself to debunk the inherited belief that competition is healthy components in one's lives as a catalysts/motivator for one's movement/direction in life and prove that one do not require external forces to move and direct oneself but instead, one can become the directive principle of one's life within the principle of that which is best for all.

I commit myself to assist and support with the research and development of parental skills for children between the age of 0-7 as those are the most crucial years where the child will develop their personalities according to the example their parents superimpose on them.

The Secret war between Women - the Childhood years - Part 1 - Day 53

This is a continuation to - The Secret War between Women - Overview - Day 52

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a parent in this world to prompt my child with the desire to have the best of all (clothes, games, hair style etc.) and I haven't consider the outflows and consequences of my doing wherein, my child will grow up within the self interest desire to be the best regardless of anything or anyone else and would then thus, try and compete for one's survival in the world system within the belief that who one is, is defined by what one has instead of Who one is as a living decision to walk breath by breath within the principle of what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a parent in this world to support the Media and have allowed my child to spend the time in front of the TV so that I could have a moment for myself and I have abdicate my responsibility as a parents to investigate how the Media works and how the media is being utilized to brainwash my child to be an become a demonized consumers through various of Marketing Psychologists/public relations and within that, programed the child into the ultimate belief that who the child is, is defined by what one has and not by who one is and thus, my child will walk one's life within a constant battle for one's rewards and when/if required, one would compete and fight for a moment of bliss without consider everything and everyone in this existence.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself, as a mother in this world, to pass on my own inherited belief that I as a woman is somewhat weak and powerless and thus, has taught my daughter to design her life in the utmost potential of becoming the best man's wife so that he would take care of my daughter and I could die knowing that my child is safe in this world. Within that, I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself to teach my child that she must be someone's wife in order to make it in this world and I haven't considered teaching my child to stand alone, in absolute self trust without being dependent on anything or anyone and instead, establishing interdependent relationships in her life, with herself first, and with others

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to consider the consequences and outflows of my desire that my daughter will have the best man which will take care of her so that I could die at peace knowing that my child is safe and sound in this world but within that, have been in total denial, suppression and separation from the origin/source of the fear which reveal itself as a desire - my accepted and allowed world system wherein beings are not being taken care of only because they are here, as their birth right but instead, Money is the factor which will determine whether or not one will survive in this world and I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed the denial, suppression and separation to keep me enslaved to this current money system wherein the upbringing that I give to my child is that of survival instead of taking a moment and look the equation in common sense, enough to be able to see the origin of the problem and thus then, stand up as a solution within the realization that no mother should fear for her child's future and as a mother, a woman in this world, I must lead the way before my children so that they could exist in a world that is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to encourage the secret competition between women by standing as an example where I gossip with my friends about other women in my world, and I haven't  considered that my daughter will pick up on that and utilize gossiping in her mind as well as with other people in her world and thus, maintain the inherit design of the secret competition between women without being aware of it exactly as I was never aware of it and yet, lived as it. And within that, I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realized, as a mother in this world, that I'm standing as an example for my children and if I allow myself to be directed by my mind within the design of competition, comparison, jealousy, judgement, gossiping etc. my children will pick up on that, program and design themselves in the exact nature of me. And thus, I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realize that I'm able to stand as an example for my children of walking breath by breath as that which is best for all and thus, instead of showing them how to follow one's mind in self interest and survival mode, I could show and direct them to be and become the directive principle of themselves and this world.

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to see how I'm brainwashing my child in her childhood years into becoming competitive being with other females in her world wherein for example, I would ask her after a school party what the girls were wearing and whether she looked the best according to her eye's view and I haven't considered the back chat that I'm imprinting into my child mind wherein she would now go and constantly compare her clothing to other girls clothing and from that moment, attempt and try to compete to be and have the best - in all life aspects.

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to realize that my desire for my child to have the best man to take care of her in her adult life has a direct influence of my child becoming a participant in the secret war between women wherein, I will teach my child how to behave, dress, stand, talk for her to have the best man without realizing that my child would then thus, compete, compare and judge other female in her world, consciously, subconsciously and unconsciously in her attempt to define herself as something in this world.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to stand in front of the mirror and look at myself in self judgement and within that essentially standing as an example for my child that self appearance as a greater value than anything else and I haven't realized or considered that my own self judgement is being imprinted in my daughter's mind and within that, I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that self judgement is always in comparison to a picture/image in my mind of a perfect symbolism that I've created in relation to other women and through that perfect symbolism I'm participating in the secret war between women, always trying to elevate myself upon another without seeing my responsibility towards my own allowance of my mind being the directive principle but also my responsibility as the educator of my child by passing on the war between women to my child by a simple act of looking at myself in the mirror.

I commit myself to show and expose the self interest desire  of having the best and the consequences it has on our society wherein, we will move and direct ourselves to have a momentary experience of reward (which is based on energy) by getting the new best thing without considering the enslavement chain in the production process, as well as the abuse of the earth's resources and within that, I will prove that the only reason we have ignored those aspects was because we are brainwashed consumers that has no respect for LIFE nor the participants within this existence.

I commit myself to show and make it clear that the current media is based on the starting point of profit and greed regardless the harm that it cause to earth as well as earth's inhabitants and I commit myself to show, reveal and expose the consequences the media has on the children of tomorrow, the children that could have been taught how to lead and establish a world that is best for all but instead, they are being brainwashed from the first encounter with TV into become a future consumers and a lesser human being than who they really are as LIFE.

I commit myself, as a woman in this world, to lead the way towards a world that is best for all because I realize that WHO I AM isn't defined by the generation that has come before me and thus, I see my responsibility as a human being in this world and I will utilize this ONE LIFE to make the utmost of it as a directive decision to walk/lead us to a world that we would like to pass on to the next generation to come - a world where all are taken care of as their birth right, regardless their race, color, religion, gender or culture.

I commit myself to stand as an example for my children and the children of this world as a whole and to consider that unless I'm changing myself according to a principle of that which is best for all, my example has no value as we have proven it already with the manifestation of this cruel world.

Facing Gossip – Day 7

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I forgive myself that I’ve NOT accepted and allowed myself to see that through accepting and allow the thoughts about other beings in my mind, I accept and allow a pattern of gossiping and in that, indicating that my thoughts as the nature of me are in fact Evil.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to define myself as righteous because I’m not participating in gossiping without realizing that if I allow myself to participate in thoughts towards another human being, I am indeed participating with gossiping. And within that, I forgive myself that I’ve NOT accepted and allowed myself to see the nature of my thoughts as gossiping because I’ve define gossiping only when and as I’m in the presence of other human beings.

I forgive myself that I’ve not accepted and allowed myself to realize that when and as I hear people gossiping about something or someone and I’ve not directed the point through assisting and supporting the beings with stopping the evil nature of the discussion, I have, in that moment, accepted and allowed abuse because I’ve not taken the responsibility to end the existence of the pattern of gossiping in this world because I feared that if I would, I will be the next target of gossiping as well as being outcast from the group/beings because I’ve not accepted the gossiping habit that is the base of friendship as it is exists today.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to participate in the pattern of gossiping in my mind because I’ve NOT realized that having thoughts about someone else in my mind IS in fact gossiping, but because we are doing it in secret, we believe that it’s valid.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to believe that I’m thinking/gossiping about someone else in my mind while the truth of the matter is that I’m only gossiping about myself with myself and it is never about anyone else but me.  

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed the evil nature of human beings in this world through thinking in my secret mind thoughts about another being without realizing that exactly as I am participating in it, everyone else are doing the same but none of us are really taking the responsibility to stop the evil nature as our thoughts that we have become because we think and believe that if we are doing it secretly, it is valid because we apparently, do not harm anyone however, through accepting and allowed the evil nature of the thoughts, we are accepting and allowing the evil nature of this world without taking the responsibility and direct ourselves according to principle of oneness and equality.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed the blame towards those who participate in gossip without turning the point back to myself to see that I’m doing exactly the same through accepting and allowing thoughts about another human being without giving it directing – other to stop my participation when as the topic of the backchat discussion is based on self interest or, direct the point physically when the nature of the discussion is a point that required direction because that is what is best for all and in that – I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed the accumulation of thoughts about a point that require direction and yet, I didn’t direct it because I feared conflicts without realizing that not directing a point that require direction is basically the acceptance and allowance of compromising myself, others and this world because I’ve not taking the responsibility to stand up and walk in every breath according to what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to be confused when a point require direction and instead of cross referencing it with another being, I haven’t done so because I thought that discussing it will be considered as gossiping however, I haven’t realized that if I accept and allow myself to keep thinking about it without giving it direction, I’m gossiping within myself and compromising not only me but also everyone else.

I forgive myself that I’ve NOT accepted and allowed myself to see the evil nature of ourselves as the participation with thoughts about other human beings and I haven’t considered that if that is being allowed within ourselves, that is also allowed within this world system and thus, we are causing the harm of the integrity of others by spreading false rumors.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed the design of friendship that is defined by gossiping about people in this world without considering the harm to the integrity of others when spreading rumours that have no substantial context to it.   

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to believe that I can fit in to groups of people if I have something in common with them like gossiping about other people and I’ve NOT realized that this type of friendship is not valid in anyway because instead of directing ourselves and our world to stop the habitual nature of gossiping as the evil nature of ourselves, we have accepted the pattern as valid and OK because we feared that if we won’t, we will not be accepted by society.

I forgive myself that I’ve NOT accepted and allowed myself to see that through complaining about beings with other beings, I’m actually participating with the gossiping pattern because I’ve not accepted and allowed myself to find a solution and/or direct the point but I rather stayed in the complaining mode so that I could define myself better than the other person as well as self righteous.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to participate in gossiping either within myself or with others because I’ve tried to validate me through compromising and diminishing other being in my life so that I could define and experience myself as more than them.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to find it interesting to gossip about other human beings in this world in the nature of celebrities because through finding false in those who have money, fame and power, I believed that my life isn’t useless and lame as I perceived it to be.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself through gossiping about celebrities and finding fault in them, I’ve justified why my own life are fine and ok because apparently, their lives are more fucked up even with their fame, money and power but what I’ve missed was that as long as NOT all lives are fulfilled in the utmost potential, none of us are really fine and ok and thus, I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to waste my time in gossiping about people in this world instead of utilizing the time to actually do something meaningful in this world and finding a solution that will insure a dignified life for all.

I forgive myself that I’ve NOT accepted and allowed myself to see that the nature of gossiping is actually due to jealousy because self perceive oneself as lacking and thus, through participating in gossiping, one is avoiding what is here as what as self accepted and allowed self to be and become in separation of self, and missing a moment of opportunity to bring the point back to self, face, correct and change.

I commit myself to stop my own participation of thoughts towards another human being in the nature of gossiping and instead, investigating within myself what the nature of the discussion that I’m participating with within my mind is revealing to myself and how through that, I can assist and support myself to become in fact a being that is worthwhile.

I commit myself to stop the nature of gossiping within my mind.

I commit myself to – when and as I see myself accessing thoughts about another human being in the nature of gossiping, I stop, I breathe and I bring myself back here to and as my human physical body. I realize that if I accept the evil nature of gossiping within myself, I accept and allow the evil nature of this world and for the world to change, I have to change within the principle of oneness and equality.

I commit myself to – when and as I see myself participating with gossiping, either within myself or with others, to ask myself whether I would speak the same words if the person that I’m speaking about was here. If the answer is No, I immediately stop, breathe and direct myself and/or the people that I’m with to turn the point back to self and see what self has accepted and allowed self to participate with, in separation of oneself and one’s world.