How one THOUGHT can influence the course of your Life - Day 508

A point opened up today when talking with a friend about how one single thought, during the formative years, can influence the way we move and direct ourselves in our reality. It is interesting how us grownups, do not take into consideration how our words and deeds influence the people around us and especially children, who takes in the information so literally and make instant decisions about who and what they are accordingly.

This can be anything from - "why are you so slow in doing your homework" where the child now believes that society sees them as slow learners and this is now how they define themselves as who they are; or - "look at this girl, she dance so funny" where the child now realizes that when you place/express yourself in public, you will be judged by others and so you need to really be self-conscious about every move you make to make sure you give no reason for anyone to judge you - Here a potential decision that the child may make is to limit and contain their natural self-expression within the fear of being judged by others; another example - "look at your brother, how successful he is, I am so proud at him" where the child now feels that they must compete with their siblings so that the parent won't be disappointed with them and now the child will decide to suppress their natural skills and only work with what they believe would make their parents happy with them.

I've been looking at my own reality and how through one single statement that was spoken to me when I was a child, I made it so absolute in my mind to a point of suppressing my natural expression in public. I remember as a child how much I enjoyed dancing and I never had issues with dancing around other people, performing and participating in shows until one day where I was watching dancing performance that my friends participated in and my brother was sitting next to me and made a negative remark about one of the girl's dancing ability and in that moment, a thought came up - "what if other people were also judging how I danced". It was the first time that I actually considered the possibility of people judging the way I danced.

From that moment onwards, I developed a high sense of 'self-conscious' thought pattern when I was around other people - I didn't want to dance, I didn't allowed myself to sing - things that I really enjoyed expressing, I believed that I could no longer do/express. Every time the opportunity to sing and specifically dance came up, the memory of that day where my brother judged my friend's dancing ability came up, as a reminder that I must not express myself in public if I don't want people to judge me.

Fascinating enough, when no one was around and I was all alone - I would secretly put on the music and dance. It is quite ridiculous if you think about it - me naturally enjoying to express myself through dancing and yet, allowing one thought memory to influence me to such an extreme where I believed I cannot express myself through dancing when people are around.

Later on in life, going out clubbing with friends became part of my reality but to me.. That was a nightmare - I just couldn't dance - this one thought, about the possibility of people judging me like how my brother judged that girl, prevented me from expressing myself through dancing. My friends pushed me to dance and the more they pushed, the more I resisted dancing because now, if I dared and danced, all the eyes would have been on me and the possibility of me being judged was on the line. The only way I could get myself to dance was by having lots of alcohol so that if anyone judges me, I could blame the alcohol. So for couple of years, I danced and hit the dancing floor lol but, under the influence of alcohol so in essence, I wasn't really expressing myself but allowed the alcohol to take the directive sit of my expression whereas even under the influence of alcohol I was very much self-conscious about my dancing movement and the people around me.

As I grew up of the alcohol and clubbing scene, I decided to stop having alcohol completely and without alcohol, I stopped going clubbing because I believed there was no point to it meaning, I knew I will not dance without alcohol.

Couple of years after, my roommate insisted that I come with her to a party and obviously, I refused but she kept on pushing because she knew how much I enjoyed dancing as she was the only one I shared my secret dancing sessions with and every so often we played music in our house and 'secretly' danced.

With her pushing me to come with her when she went out I eventually did go dance with her one night and with her support, I danced, still very much restricted because now, in my mind, I had to also let go of the connection I created previously between alcohol and dancing. After couple of years and lots of Self-Forgiveness in investigating all the lines of information, emotions, feelings, pictures and memories that I created in my mind, I reached the point where I allowed my natural expression to come through around other people where I no longer have that thought memory from my childhood governing who or how I express myself.

So parents and adults, It took me over 20 years to move past the point from when my brother made that remark to where I am able to fully express myself in dancing. We really have to be aware of the words we speak around the children, to be aware of the influence we have on their life within the decisions that they make, based on what they hear or observe us doing. If you haven't already, I suggest listening to 'Parenting - Perfecting the Human Race' to support you with preventing such moments that can lead to your child making life decisions they would rather live without.

Forgetting a child in the Car to Die Phenomena - Introduction - Day 400

Yesterday, I read about another case of a baby being forgotten in the car for a few hours and as such, had died from hyperthermia. It was two weeks after another incident where a baby was forgotten in the car for 7 hours and so, I was intrigued to investigate this phenomena and understand how is it that more and more reports about parents forgetting their children in the car is now in a process of acceleration. In  no way I was expecting to open up the news today and find out that in less than 24 hours, another baby was left in the car and unfortunately had died a few hours ago - http://www.ynetnews.com/articles/0,7340,L-4405270,00.html

 

Our "natural" tendency is to immediately blame the parents and defined them as untrustworthy,  inadequate or irresponsible parents but this blogs is not about finding faults within the individuals but to rather firstly understand that there IS a problem and secondly to present and support with solutions to prevent the problem from reoccurring. Currently the solutions discussed in the governments around the world, by the name of prevention, would not entirely prevent the problem as the real problem was not yet identified nor understood and as such, was not appropriately addressed.

 

Before I start, a point to consider for all of us who are rushing into finding faults and pointing fingers - we normally tend to judge that which we do not understand so having that in mind, pointing fingers and blaming others before one had research and investigated the relationship between the mind, the physical body, environmental influences and memory related to the phenomena of parents forgetting their children in the car, is counterproductive, unsupportive and abdication of self responsibility in terms of investigating all things and walk the solutions that are best for all.

 

There is no effective world wide track record regarding these instances of children dying from hyperthermia due to being left in a car and thus, there is no scientifically or mathematical conclusion that I am able to share here and therefore, what would be shared in the following blogs are guessumptions based on the information that I've gathered, my own understanding of the mind in relation to memory and common sense.

 

Within the blogs ahead we will take a closer look at the dimensions/relationships involve with the parents forgetting their children in the car to die phenomena.

Emotion Driven Parents - Day 396

I get to observe interesting points while visiting my birth country and today I was a witness to a manipulative consumerized behaviour that is simply unacceptable and without effective parenting awareness, consequences that could have been prevented, are awaiting to burst.

 

So the story is as follows:

When young children (in the ages of 2-6 years old) go to a theatre show, and in this specific case it was Peter Pan, at the end of the show, right as the kids go through the exit door, a sale stand is there, provoking the kids to buy a toy that is related to the show they have just seen. With Peter Pan, it was swords that are not only very expansive but also, very dangerous from the perspective of their shape, the material it made from and its size. In fact, young children who do not yet have an effective assessment to their own power, without effective training as to how to use this sword, the consequences are immediate.

Now, if you have 2 children that both get these swords, you can imagine how fast one will get hurt and especially, when the kids are tired after 2 hours show where they didn't eat or sleep as they would have had if they were elsewhere due to the hours the show is running which is normally the hour that children are taking their noon nap.

 

The other problem in allowing these stand to sell products that may harm the children, is the manipulative way through which the sells people turn to the children and that in itself leaves no space for the parents to make a decision that is best for the child because once one parent buy it for their kid, a chain start and suddenly, all parents feel pressured to buy the product too because otherwise, they would feel as if they are bad parents. That means that the decision to purchase the product wasn't done from the principle of what is best for my child and in the sword case, also to other children, but the decision is made according to how would others and my children would define me if I won't play along and purchase the product that I know isn't best for my child. That means that the value the parents is basing their decision is one's own self interest as to how would others see me instead of the value being the value of life that is best for all.

 

So parents really - it is time to stop following the consemuerized behaviour and within that, to stop moving and directing yourself according to what is best for you as your Ego and self definition but rather according to what is best for the child and all children as a whole.

 

Understand that this sheep behaviour won't assist and support your child but rather transform the child to behave exactly the same way Emotion driven that is harmful, disrespectful and dishonour of life.

 

 

The Answer is within the Question - Day 390

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is a continuation of the previous blog: Why did we stop questioning our reality? (Part 1) - Day 387 and

Why did we stop questioning our reality? (Part 2) - Day 388 and Why children do not respects Parents? - Day 389. For the full context of this blog, I suggest reading through these blogs for context.

 

So why have we stopped questioning our reality? How is it that at a young age we constantly asked: "But Why?" and then all of a sudden we became these beings that had submitted to the system that is dysfunctional in nature and yet, do not question it whatsoever? And of course, we cannot even question why we didn't thus far question because that would indicate that we are questioning our reality but since we are so use to not question anything, we end up where we are - in a dysfunctional world system where Equality, Integrity and Oneness is no where to be found; in a world system that is based on Greed, Power and Control where the winner takes it all; in a world system where unless you have money, you are not safe; in a world system that it's based foundation is to keep the human enslaved, limited and ineffective; it is time to start questioning our reality and in doing so, also walk the solutions and establish a world we can all be proud at.

 

As I've shown in the previous blogs, suppressing our natural ability to understand and comprehend a point was taken cared of at home, by our parents. And they cannot be blamed because they have been suppressed and limited by their own parents which are also not to be blamed because they have walked the same path with their parents and so on and on and on... the sin of the fathers keep on passing generation after generation. But the cycle must be stopped eventually and the questions must be asked and resolve into a solution that is best for all.

 

It seems to me that at some stage in our lives, when we realize that we are not going to live the happily ever after story as how we would have pictured and imagined our lives to be, for a glimpse of a moment we find ourselves wondering how did we come to this point and what went wrong during the way. We will start questioning our lives and from here, one of two things would happened: most likely, we would again submit to our course of life and justify for ourselves why our lives is just perfect the way it is and in rare cases, we would continue to investigate but once we realize that we are the solution, that we are the key, we will immediate give up and then justify for ourselves again why we shouldn't even bother. Yes, there are also these rare cases were we become activists and make a small and insignificant change in the world and again, justify for ourselves that we did our share and that is all that one can do. Although, there is one thing that none of us have yet to realize and that is - on the individual level, we cannot make a change however, once we stand together, as humanity and we align ourselves to the principle of absolute equality as what is best for all then… we can make a change.

 

It isn't going to be easy and with any new change, resistance will come up and it's ok - we have all been there and walked this point and you can read all about it in our journeys to life but the thing is - the answer is within the question and all we have to do is keep on asking the questions so that we can finally see the answer that was always here.

 

Join us in our journey of questioning our reality and see the answer for yourself.

 

 

 

 

Why children do not respects Parents? - Day 389

This is a continuation of the previous blog: Why did we stop questioning our reality? (Part 1) - Day 387 and

Why did we stop questioning our reality? (Part 2) - Day 388. For the full context of this blog, I suggest reading through these blogs for context.

 

In the previous blog I ended of with the following quote:

So - why did this memory came up. when I was looking at the memory and asked myself why this memory came up, a word flashed in my mind: "Respect". I realized that my relationship with my grandfather was of respect and integrity because he always took the time to explain to me a point when I asked: "Why". And as I go through my data base of information as I write here, I see more and more events when I asked him a question and he answered me while others did not. I also remember that when my grandmother for instance said: "No, because I said so", he expanded on the point and explained me the reason behind the answer: "No".

 

How can a parent expect their child to respect them if the parent do not stand within the principle of give as you would like to receive and within that context - treat with respect and you will be respected. If one do not respect the child in taking the time to walk them through the time line of understanding, and especially when  the child ask "why", one's action indicate that one do not respect one's child but rather acting as a dictator in controlling and forcing the child to absolute submission and suppression by using one's parental authority.

 

So now the child understands the meaning of the words: "No, because I said so" and the child will slowly but surely start to disrespect and distrust the parent because a relationship of integrity was never established. The child by now already realize that there is no common sense in the words: "No, because I said so" and the child already realize that there is no use to try and ask for clarification because there isn't much chance that the parent will suddenly change their contaminated habit and start explaining the reasoning behind the decision that had led them to speak the words: "No, because I said so". This is when the Rebelling stage comes in play.

 

With the child desire to walk a specific path and the parent saying "No", the child did not associated the path they wanted to go with the word: "NO" but they have associated the word "No" with their parents and therefore, from the child perspective, all they have to do is to remove the parent from the equation and the path is clear to go. Now they will walk the path behind the parents back. Do you know anyone who didn't do what ever they wanted behind the parents' back? Do you think that your parents did not do the same - did what ever they wanted behind their parents' back?

 

But later on, consequences will come to the child's doorstep so to speak and at the end of the day, they will have to tell the parents what they have done which by then, in many cases, it is too late and one can no longer prevent the consequences but face them.

 

Now, all of that is not understood by the parents in this world despite of the fact that we, when we were children, disrespected our parents, did things behind their back, told them about it only when it was already too late and consequences emerged and yet - once we become parents, a funny thing happen - we forget that we were children, we forget that we didn't trust our parents and we repeat the same mistakes our parents did with us even though we swear so many times that we will never be like our parents. But the fact of the matter is that there is only one thing we never did as adults - question our reality in terms of looking at how is it possible that despite of our agreement with ourselves to not treat our children as our parents treated us, we still repeat and walk our parents' foot steps. Bizarre.

 

More to come in the next blog

The Consequences of our eating habits - Jamie Oliver Food Revolution Review - Day 383

This is a continuation to the blog Series review about Jamie Oliver's TV series - Food Revolution.

Thus, if you haven't already, I suggest watching Jamie Oliver's TV series - Food Revolution and read through the blog series where the question: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education? is asked.

 

Within this blog I will be focusing on the third problem that I've identified when watching the Food Revolution series - Lack of understanding the consequences of our eating habits.

 

2/3 of the Americans are overweighed or obese (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/overwt.htm) - even though the consequences are visible to say the least, the awareness, the problem and the solution are no where to be seen. If you walk through the path of money, one thing is certain, you will find the answer, you will see the problem and you'll see exactly what needs to be done to not only sort out the problem but also, preventing it from reoccurring however, it appears that we prefer to ignor the problem and continue our destructive lives.

From the Elite's perspective, having the majority of the Americans ignorant is the Elite's bliss because they can continue making money by killing the citizens slowly but surely - I mean, think of it - the money that is spent on fast food/junk food and the money that is spent when treating the consequences is pure profit for the elite. In fact, having healthy people would reduce the Elite's profit and therefore, you cannot expect that the solution will come for far above.

 

What doesn't make sense to me is the parents common statements that they want the best for their child without realizing that with the food they feed their children, they are killing them and ensuring a shorter life span. However, here, we cannot even blame the parents for being ignorant because the system have deliberately created ignorant people who are unable to think for themselves and develop reasoning thinking. So you see, the problem is sever because those that can stand up for a change and take their responsibility where trained by the system to be sheep instead of self leaders and yet, the ones who give the power for the continuation of educating generations of sheep is the same people who were trained to be ignorant sheep - the people, you and me - we are the ones who votes for our leaders to continue training us to believe we are powerless, inferior and with no skills to even think for ourselves. Watch the Century of the Self and College conspiracy to understand what we have become.

 

This is why we now have epidemic disease called obesity; and it is getting worse despite of us seeing the premature death of the people around us due to obesity, heart problems, diabetes - all related to the food we eat, we do nothing to change our eating habits because habits, once becoming habits, are difficult to change for someone who have forced themselves to believe they are powerless to make a change for themselves.

 

So, it is not that we do not understand the consequences, we do, we see it all over. It is that we have accepted and allowed our own self defeat and we literally gave up on ourselves, our lives and the life of our children.

It seems to me that we are waiting for the consequences to get much worse before we act however, as I see it, by the time the consequences would get to a point that would force us to act, it would be already too late.

So, will we stand back and wait or will we act now and prevent that which is still in a preventable stage before it becomes too late? Investigate the Equal Money and the Equal Life foundation and support your children to live where your words and practical actions becomes ONE: "I want what is best for my child" = Ensuring in a practical and physical manner that your child and all other children will actually have the best.

 

 

Parents are the KEY - Jamie Oliver Food Revolution Review - Day 382

This is a continuation to the blog Series review about Jamie Oliver's TV series - Food Revolution.

Thus, if you haven't already, I suggest watching Jamie Oliver's TV series - Food Revolution and read through the blog series where the question: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education? is asked.

 

Within this blog I will be focusing on the second problem that I've identify when watching the Food Revolution series - Ignorance of Parents with regarding the Nutrition Value of the food their children eat.

 

Not so surprising, Jamie Oliver encounter great resistance when presenting his food revolution. There is a very simple explanation for the resistance - FEAR. Fear to find out that we are actually accountable for the decisions we make and to the consequences to follow these decisions however, being aware of the problem and the consequences normally lead one to great emotions of Guilt which instead of facing what one have accepted and allowed and from there, moving to the correction process, one is possessing oneself with a future projection of guilt and therefore, one would prefer to ignore/deny the problem instead of facing, correcting and make a change. It is actually quiet interesting - we all know deep down who we have become, what we accept and allow and what we would not and despite of knowing that we have made some bad decisions, we would rather continue making these same decisions over and over again but in no way would be willing to admit that we have made some wrong decisions because then we would feel guilty about it. we also know that change isn't as easy as we would like it to be and we will have to work hard for a change to manifest and if there is anything we don't like doing is working hard, be persistent and devoted to make a change - we would rather avoid it now and face the consequences later; only later sometimes is too far gone that the only thing that one would face is one's own death.

 

Ok, back to the point - When Jamie was looking for ways to raise the awareness and receive support for his plan of making the citizens of the town healthier, he decided that he must group the parents together as they are the force that would make things happen if only they understand what they are really allowing their children to eat while being in the supervision of school. He gathered the parents in the school yard and it turns out that the parents were extremely ignorant about the nutrition value of the food their children are eating and so, Jamie showed them and made it presented in such a way that the parents could visually see for them the extent of the problem. So the parents jumped in and decided to support Jamie with his mission and accordingly, Jamie got the school permission to continue his revolutionary plans in the school.

 

As I've mentioned in many blogs before, there is no doubt that parenting doesn't comes with a training manual to assist the parent to be an effective trainer for their children however, from my perspective, parents can no longer play the ignorant card. If you have a child and you want the best for your child then invest your time in doing research! Investigate all things and allow your child only that which is good for them.

 

I mean seriously, didn't you know that eating junk food for breakfast and lunch isn't good for your child's body? Did you really needed Jamie to show you what your children are eating at school? When your child came home and you asked him what did they eat at school for breakfast and they told you they ate Pizza, no alarm went on inside of you? I'm sure it has and yet, you didn't do anything about it because you felt so powerless right?

So parents, realize that you are in fact powerless as an individual but you are very powerful when you gather in a group and you can make a change if you work together. From the smallest to the greater - if we all gather together and stand up for a change that is best for all in this entire world, we will become a powerful group that can make things happen. Look at Bolivia as an example - the minority started to slowly but surely gather together until they were big and powerful enough to make a change on a political level. We must stop resist our fears but rather face them and move on to the correction process so that our children and the generation to come would in fact have the basic foundation to grow from.

 

So if you as a parent understand the problem and can see the solution that we present within the Equal Money System, wouldn't you join the movement to ensure your child health, success, opportunity and dignity in their life? Remember to investigate all things because ignorance is no longer a bliss, it comes with consequences and your children will be the one who would face the consequences that follow your bad decisions. Stop that now, stand up, research, investigate and make a change.

Study finds children would not think of overweight person as a potential friend - Day 369

This in another blog within the blog series where I investigate the question: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?.

 

In todays Daily Mail article - How we start being 'fattist' at four: Study finds children would not think of overweight person as a potential friend  one can find absolutely fascinating study that clearly show that the parents and our society as a whole are simply ineffective trainers for the children in this world. The study shows how ineffective parenting leads to prejudice behaviour of a child already at age 4 and all of that is happening through the example of the parents, their opinions and beliefs (Value system) and/or the TV/Media influences that without parental input, one simply do not know what the child would accept as their value system and whether the value stands in alignment to what is best for the child and humanity as a whole:

 

Here some pointers from the article:

 

"..A study of 126 boys and girls who had just started school showed they were loath to think of an overweight story book character as a potential friend…

 

…The Leeds University researchers said it seems that even very young children have picked up on the prejudice against fat people that pervades society…

 

...Only one of the 43 children read the fat Alfie version of the book chose him as a potential pal..

 

...The results of the study, the first to show that children of such a young age stigmatise those who are fat, were presented at European Congress on Obesity in Liverpool...

 

...He said that with parents of obese children saying their youngsters are already socially isolated at the age of five, such views could underpin weight-related bullying and victimisation...

 

...The professor said that he believes the youngsters are picking up on a prejudice towards obesity that is all around them, from the opinions of their parents to TV shows which ‘ridicule’ the fat...

 

...He added: ‘I think we have an underlying social commentary about weight and morals and that the morality of people is based on their shape...

 

...‘I think that is very powerful and kids are sensitive to it.’...

 

...Professor John Wilding, of the UK Association for the study of Obesity, said: ‘I think it matters because we know that the social stigma associated with weight problems is quite significant...

 

...‘It is reflected in reduced employment opportunities and all sorts of other aspects of life...

 

...‘If these stereotypes are starting in childhood, it is going to be very hard to reverse them...

 

...‘I guess we need to think about how to change that in society.’"

 

It is fascinating that the conclusion is:  "I guess we need to think about how to change that in society" instead of a definite statement indicting: "Till here no further - we must change ourselves by investigating our value system so that we can stand up, correct ourselves and change our contaminated behaviour and thus, stand as an example for our children of what does it really mean to live in integrity and respect towards oneself and each other.
 

The even bigger problem is that no one wants to admit that we, as parents, are brainwashing our children to be the image and likeness of ourselves. I mean, let's do the math - can you honestly state that throughout your day, you have no Thoughts, Reactions and Emotions towards others? Was there a day in your life that you didn't judge, spite or gossiped about another human being? (and here, it does not matter if it was verbally or only in your mind) Is there absolute respect towards ALL human beings in this world within yourself to the extent that every decision that you make is what best for all?

IF you are honest about these questions, it would be fair enough to assume that as of yet, you are not standing as an absolute and perfect example for your children and all of these inner conflicts that you have within yourself, you are passing to your children and they will pass it through to their children. (The sin of the fathers)

 

We train the kids to either become obese by telling them they must finish everything from their plate (please read Finish Everything on your Plate! - Day 355) and we train the children to not like fat people.

 

In the article it was mentioned that obese people are having hard time to find a job and now that we understand that prejudice behaviour starts already in early childhood, there is no wonder since once one that is obese is being interviewed for a job, the interviewer has most likely prejudice opinions about the shape of the interviewee body and as we all know, the judgement and opinions that we form about another is happening in the first 10 Seconds or less. By all means, the quality, integrity and experience of the interviewee is not coming to play when the 'wrong' judgement is being placed upon the interviewee by the brainwashed interviewer.

 

In essence, the article emphasize the consequences of incorrect use of the Natural Learning Ability. When the child learns bad habits such as being prejudice already at age 4, it implies that the parents didn't make sure that the information that the child stored within oneself contains the actual and real meaning of the word/vocabulary/expression. If we teach our children that it is valid to be prejudice from a early age, how can we not see that instead of evolving we are devolving and how can we not see it was always our responsibility and our direct participation in how and who we have become? How can we not see that we pass our sins to our children?

 

What is important to understand form this article is that the problem is much more severe than being prejudice at age 4 - the problem is that we have no awareness as to what we teach our children, we have no awareness as to what our children are picking up from our expression, behaviour and words.

We have never actually investigated our opinions, beliefs, ideas, perceptions that we have created as our value system upon which we live as and the even bigger problem here is that we pass it generation after generation without seeing, realizing and understanding that we pass on invalid value systems through which we created our world and thus, it is no wonder that there is so much hate, suffering and abuse in this world because we have never made sure that our children would become the best that they can be as we have limited them to what and who we are and let's face it - who we are isn't the best for all example as of yet.

 

So it is time to takes things into our hands and start investigating our belief system before it is too late; we must stop the cycle of ineffective production of human beings and instead, become the being that we can be, a being that moves, direct and walk according to that which is best for all. Only then we can ensure that what we show, teach and educate our children would bring the results of a world where we can trust each other, support and cared for each other, a world where we respect ourselves and each other - a world that is best for all living beings. It is up to us, it always has been so would we wait till we reach to a point of no return or would we take responsibility and correct ourselves and change?

Becoming a Parent of all the Children in this world - Day 368

 

 

A few days ago, it was the International Mothers Day and these 2 blogs came up online:

Day 379: Motherhood and Brainwashing

Day 301 - A Call to All Mothers

 

If you followed my blogs thus far, you would know that I'm not a mother and that my priority at the moment isn't Motherhood. As for myself, I've walked a process from being extremely possessed within the desire of having a child 5 years ago, to being extremely possessed  and believing that I do not want to be a mother until I got Here - to a point of equilibrium wherein when/if the point is here, I would look at the practicality of it and accordingly make a decision that is best for all.

 

Though, once I read these 2 blogs above I have realized that I am a mother; a mother of all children in this world because I now understand my responsibility as a human being with the ability and means to care-for and support all the children in this world and this is why I have made the commitment to do what is necessary to be done to bring about a world that is best for all and thus within that, best for all the children in this world.

 

When I talk with people that are already parents, there are these typical saying such as: "when you'll be a mother, you'll see things differently" or "You must experience giving birth" or "Only a mother can understand" and I'm sorry to break the News but I don't need to become a mother to value the value of Life and I don't need to become a mother to care about another human being. From my perspective, caring and loving a child only because it came out of me is a limited form of caring and loving because doesn't it make much more sense to be able to care and love any child, even if the child didn't come from your physical body? Doesn't it make sense to care also for a child that is not you own as Equal?

 

So now, I'm asking - if you as mothers understand what Care and Love is - wouldn't you want all children to be cared for and Loved? Now that you are mothers, you understand the bond a mother and a child has and that without this bond, the chances of a child to grow in a supportive environment is low isn't it? so if we do all understand how dependent a baby is on their mother, why are we all sit tight in our family nets instead of making sure that all children has the support that every child need? And that every child has the opportunity to feel safe, considered, cared for and Loved?

 

I'm sure you have realized by now that unless we do something, no one would as nothing within the current world system is trustworthy. The problem is that despite of us understanding that something needs to be done and that the solution wouldn't come from high above, we do nothing because we still hope that somehow, things will get better while the physical reality show us the direct opposite. However, the longer we wait, the more children suffer, the more children separated from their motherly bond, the more children are being abused and so - we cannot wait.

 

So - If you are in a position where your life style allows you to invest an hour or two per day to read all about the possibilities of changing the world to a place that is best for all, please make your time worthwhile and investigate how can YOU be the key, the Mother/Father of all the children in this world. These children are crying and screaming for us to take care of them, as the system failed  them and they have to bear the consequences and as such, they do not have anyone but us. The Equal Money System is the foundation from which Real Love and Care can birth from so let's make a stand and move towards a system that Value Life.

 

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Does your child really have a behaviour disorder? (Part 2) - Day 364

This is a continuation to Does your child really have a behaviour disorder? (Part 1) - Day 363 where the main question asked is: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

It is clear by now that most of the "psychological" problems that are now being qualified and identified as psychiatric problems that requires medication have nothing to do with the biology of the human physical body and thus, it is fair to assume that the problem isn't really the child's behaviour but rather the environment of the child and within that a dysfunctional education system and untrained parents that stand as an effective example for the child and yet again, instead of sorting out the core of the problem and prevent the problem from even manifesting, we jump into the quick fix solution by medicating the child and manipulating their parents that were never train to question the system, question the source of the problem but rather were trained to accept the flaws in the system and obey.

 

What has been defined as behaviour problems is a simple result of ineffective communication - the children that are eager to express themselves and have not yet developed an effective vocabulary to express themselves are behaving in ways that for us seems to be unacceptable because we judge that which we do not understand.

So, let's take an example of an ordinary events in a child's life and how it can influence the child's behaviour to a degree where the parents believe that there is something wrong with the child, without understanding how they are directly responsible for the child's "sudden" bad behaviour and therefore, with the belief that there is now something wrong with the child's behaviour, they will turn to the doctor that would very easily lable the child and may even medicate the child:

 

So, the child is young and the family owns a puppy. The mother throw a ball for the dog to catch and the dog catch the ball, very excited, bring the ball back so that the mom can throw the ball again which is what the mother obviously does because why not? It is a playful event. And while this is happening, the child is observing the event: the energies around, the mother expression, the dog expression and everyone are happy and having fun. Little do we know that in that very moment, what the child may also register in their mind as a memory is the movement made by the mother when she is throws the ball for the dog to catch. So now imagine for a moment what the movement can look like when the child do not have yet any previous knowledge or information regarding the implication of this playful event of throwing the ball. Yes, you guessed right, it does look like a arm going from the body, towards the skies, straightening up and going down. So from a child perspective that movement indicate a fun experience isn't it?

So now the child goes to the kindergarten and oooops, there is another kid playing with a ball that looks exactly like the ball the mother was playing with the dog just the other day. And now, a memory comes up and the kid may use their arm with a positive meaning attached to it however, the outcome may be very negative because now, the child hit the other child with the very same movement the mother did the other day when she playfully throw the ball for the dog to catch. And… the child is now showing "symptoms" of "wrongly" behaviour while all along, the child was sure that he was playing. But all the teachers in the kindergarten were reacting to the experience, and suddenly there is a total mess, children are crying, screaming and OMG, what just happen?? Oh, yes, we know, the child has behaviour problem.

 

So you see, we really do not know what innocent playful events can be interpreted by the child and we do not have the skills to make sure that every single input the child register is the input that would result with an output that is best for all and instead of investigating the cause of sudden "behaviour" problems, we react and immediately label the child as a violent child that requires medication to calm down.

 

More to come in the next blog.

Finish Everything on your Plate! - Day 355

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

Recent research has shown the relationship between Child Obesity and Parents ever going request: "Finish every on your plate". (Source: Parents who tell children to finish everything on their plates are 'fuelling obesity').

 

So what do we teach our children? Are we teaching them that food cannot be wasted? Are we teaching them the value of food?  Are we teaching them that it is Bad to not finish everything that is on your plate? Are we teaching them that it is impolite to not finish the food? Are we teaching them that they must feel guilty if they do not finish their food? Do we really know what is it that we are teaching them and have we actually realized that we are teaching them something within every word we speak to them?

 

What parents do not understand is the relationship between the words they speak and the influence the words would have on their child. So here is a good example to show how Words are in essence create our world and how words would influence the child's future whether it is their effectiveness as human beings, their success in life, the quality of their life, the decisions they will make and now we can clearly see not only the consequences on their physical body but also, the physiological effect obesity for instance would create in the child's life.

 

So it is interesting that thus far, Obesity was mostly looked at from the perspective of the Corporation responsibility in terms of their misleading advertisement and the unsupportive nutrition added to food but in terms of the actual responsibility of the parents, not much was said or studied.

 

This is because the Natural learning ability was not understood and one of the human's tendency is to always shift responsibility rather than investigating all things and accordingly take self responsibility. It is thus important to study and understand the influence of words/vocabulary on the child and within that, why and how the child would develop their entire personality, the 'who they are' already in the first 7 years of their life through the words the parents speak, the association the child would create to these words, the energy experience within it and the memories of the events related to these words.

 

Within that, one would be able to start understanding what does Natural learning ability is, how to use it correctly and effectively to enhance the child natural skills instead of us as parents, having to deal with consequences.

More about Words and the child Natural learning ability can be investigated on EQAFE within the interview series: Parenting - Perfecting the human race.

Parents forced to leave their Children in day cares for 12 hours a day - Day 351

 

 

Yesterday I read an article that describes a disturbing phenomena that is busy accelerating in Israel and I'm pretty sure Israel isn't alone in this as the economic stress is worsening all over the world.

The phenomena is of parents having to leave their children for 12 hours a day for others to take care of their children, simply because the parents are running from one job to another, on their race for their family survival, just to have enough to live by. http://www.xnet.co.il/family/articles/0,14566,L-3100496,00.html?dcMaa=1.

 

The article also describes 2 types of Parents - those who choose to send their children to a 12 hours day care and those who are forced to do so. In this blog we are going to have a look at both types of parents to identify who is really to blame because our natural reaction would be that it is the parents free choice to make their decisions but here I'm saying - the parents or anyone else for that matter, do not really have a free choice. This I have already discussed many times before so I suggest reading through the blog series: the Desteni message and the Correction Process.

 

The first type of parents are those who Choose to send their children for a 12 hours day care. Here, we are mostly looking at parents who have placed greater value in their Career rather than raising their children. They have decided to follow their dream job and follow the path of money and the only way to do so is if they give all that they have got to climb the ladder of success even if it means that they have no time for their children. These parents are normally already well established from the perspective of having the funds to pay for a private day care.

Now, I'm aware that many would now cringe inside themselves to what I am about to say so take a breath before you read the next sentence: you don't get to blame, judge or have any form of nasty thought about these parents because the only reason they have made this choice is because  it is our current world system that encourage, support and push the people to make such decisions; it is the current world system that created the foundation for insane working hours in our race of accumulating more and more and more so that we could consume more and more and more. Here, I suggest watching the Century of the Self to see, realize and understand how we have been brainwashed into becoming consumerized robots through massive propaganda that was deliberately done by professional psychologists that have understood how the mind works and thus, exploited their understanding to instead of supporting with enhancing the mass to stand as a pillar of support in our society to become a limit version of dysfunctional human beings that move by our self interests and desires. 

 

The other type of parents are those who were forced to a life style of having to work in 2-4 jobs just to be able to survive and as a result, are also forced to leave their children in a public day care that is designed for cases such as these where the parents are struggling for their survival and have no one but the day care centres as an additional support structure.

And, there are those parents who are both Medical Interns for instance who have to stay in the hospital for 48 hours and they must leave their children because within this world system, these are the requirement that are accepted and allowed.

Those who even dare to speak the words: "so why the hell did they bring children to this world?" - you should be ashamed of yourself because again, you are shifting responsibility from seeing how you are directly responsible in accepting and allowing a world system where the majority is in constant survival mode while you have the luxury of having kids, a decent job and a support structure to assist with your children. If you didn't have it, you wouldn't have say/think such a thing.

 

So you see, the problem with both scenarios isn't the parents but the world system we have created where we abdicate of responsibility towards our children and the children of others within a Profit Driven system that filters out the majority of the people so that the few could have more for themselves.

 

So please - before you judge others, always look at your own responsibility and instead of judging, offer support, suggestions and solutions that would enable any parent to spend time with their children to be able to produce a child that is effective in all ways possible.

Investigate the solutions on the Equal Money website and stand as the solution instead of the problem.

 

 

 

 

 

What is care really? Day 340

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

When going through the news headlines and seeing the craziness humanity is suffering from, it is clear that Real Care does not exists in this world. One can blame the world system, the education system, the neighbours, the living conditions, you name it; however, if we look in self honesty, we would see that we were the ones who created the system that allows such madness; we would start seeing our responsibility from the perspective that what ever we now see accelerating around the world, is the exact duplicate of the nastiness, madness and evilness that exists in our minds. For more context, I suggest reading Why Changing the World start with Self - Day 311 and Facing the Evil within - the KEY to Self Awareness - Day 188.

 

Now, if we look back at the original question: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education? it is safe to say that if Real Care for one's children was existing, us, as Parents in this world, would have make sure that our children would be and become the best they could be within a very specific guideline of:

- Give as you would like to receive.

- Do unto another as you would like to be done unto you.

Making sure that our Children would be the best they can be within these above guidelines, would have resulted with a world that is best for all where Madness and Craziness would be non existent; where Poverty and Crime would no longer exists; War and Abuse would be something that we couldn't even grasp to be existing in our harmonized world. Which by the way, if we look at the word: 'Harmony' we would find 2 fascinating things within the sounding of the word:

1. Harmony - No Harm ->When Harmony is truly applied, there is no Harm.

2. Harm Money -> Money is the Root of all Harm isn't it?

 

HOWEVER - we cannot do it unless we understand what Real Care Imply; what Give as you would like to receive and Do unto another as you would like to be done unto you, is practically implies on a Best For all application and consideration; we cannot do it unless we understand our own Mind, our own Programming, our own reactions, thoughts, and automated behaviours and unless we walk our own process of Rebirthing ourselves as Life that is honourable, we would pass on to our children, our own generational sins without even realizing that we do so.

 

So here is to remind ourselves that there is no one to blame, not even ourselves and from here, all we have to do is to move directly to the Correction that is required to stop repeating the same generational patterns that had led us to create a world of Madness in its absolute glorification.

If you haven't already, I suggest reading through the Blog series: The correction Process and the Desteni Message as a 101 guidelines to understand what Programming Is, How we program ourselves, the difference between Honesty and Self Honesty, what does it mean to correct and change ourselves and why, etc.

 

If you are already ready to start investigating and introspecting yourself in all the level of the minds, I suggest walking the Free On-Line DIP Lite Course and start your process of Establishing the basic tools for Self Correction and Realization so that you could become the Seed of Life that would bring about Harmonized Life as a Living example.