Study finds children would not think of overweight person as a potential friend - Day 369

This in another blog within the blog series where I investigate the question: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?.

 

In todays Daily Mail article - How we start being 'fattist' at four: Study finds children would not think of overweight person as a potential friend  one can find absolutely fascinating study that clearly show that the parents and our society as a whole are simply ineffective trainers for the children in this world. The study shows how ineffective parenting leads to prejudice behaviour of a child already at age 4 and all of that is happening through the example of the parents, their opinions and beliefs (Value system) and/or the TV/Media influences that without parental input, one simply do not know what the child would accept as their value system and whether the value stands in alignment to what is best for the child and humanity as a whole:

 

Here some pointers from the article:

 

"..A study of 126 boys and girls who had just started school showed they were loath to think of an overweight story book character as a potential friend…

 

…The Leeds University researchers said it seems that even very young children have picked up on the prejudice against fat people that pervades society…

 

...Only one of the 43 children read the fat Alfie version of the book chose him as a potential pal..

 

...The results of the study, the first to show that children of such a young age stigmatise those who are fat, were presented at European Congress on Obesity in Liverpool...

 

...He said that with parents of obese children saying their youngsters are already socially isolated at the age of five, such views could underpin weight-related bullying and victimisation...

 

...The professor said that he believes the youngsters are picking up on a prejudice towards obesity that is all around them, from the opinions of their parents to TV shows which ‘ridicule’ the fat...

 

...He added: ‘I think we have an underlying social commentary about weight and morals and that the morality of people is based on their shape...

 

...‘I think that is very powerful and kids are sensitive to it.’...

 

...Professor John Wilding, of the UK Association for the study of Obesity, said: ‘I think it matters because we know that the social stigma associated with weight problems is quite significant...

 

...‘It is reflected in reduced employment opportunities and all sorts of other aspects of life...

 

...‘If these stereotypes are starting in childhood, it is going to be very hard to reverse them...

 

...‘I guess we need to think about how to change that in society.’"

 

It is fascinating that the conclusion is:  "I guess we need to think about how to change that in society" instead of a definite statement indicting: "Till here no further - we must change ourselves by investigating our value system so that we can stand up, correct ourselves and change our contaminated behaviour and thus, stand as an example for our children of what does it really mean to live in integrity and respect towards oneself and each other.
 

The even bigger problem is that no one wants to admit that we, as parents, are brainwashing our children to be the image and likeness of ourselves. I mean, let's do the math - can you honestly state that throughout your day, you have no Thoughts, Reactions and Emotions towards others? Was there a day in your life that you didn't judge, spite or gossiped about another human being? (and here, it does not matter if it was verbally or only in your mind) Is there absolute respect towards ALL human beings in this world within yourself to the extent that every decision that you make is what best for all?

IF you are honest about these questions, it would be fair enough to assume that as of yet, you are not standing as an absolute and perfect example for your children and all of these inner conflicts that you have within yourself, you are passing to your children and they will pass it through to their children. (The sin of the fathers)

 

We train the kids to either become obese by telling them they must finish everything from their plate (please read Finish Everything on your Plate! - Day 355) and we train the children to not like fat people.

 

In the article it was mentioned that obese people are having hard time to find a job and now that we understand that prejudice behaviour starts already in early childhood, there is no wonder since once one that is obese is being interviewed for a job, the interviewer has most likely prejudice opinions about the shape of the interviewee body and as we all know, the judgement and opinions that we form about another is happening in the first 10 Seconds or less. By all means, the quality, integrity and experience of the interviewee is not coming to play when the 'wrong' judgement is being placed upon the interviewee by the brainwashed interviewer.

 

In essence, the article emphasize the consequences of incorrect use of the Natural Learning Ability. When the child learns bad habits such as being prejudice already at age 4, it implies that the parents didn't make sure that the information that the child stored within oneself contains the actual and real meaning of the word/vocabulary/expression. If we teach our children that it is valid to be prejudice from a early age, how can we not see that instead of evolving we are devolving and how can we not see it was always our responsibility and our direct participation in how and who we have become? How can we not see that we pass our sins to our children?

 

What is important to understand form this article is that the problem is much more severe than being prejudice at age 4 - the problem is that we have no awareness as to what we teach our children, we have no awareness as to what our children are picking up from our expression, behaviour and words.

We have never actually investigated our opinions, beliefs, ideas, perceptions that we have created as our value system upon which we live as and the even bigger problem here is that we pass it generation after generation without seeing, realizing and understanding that we pass on invalid value systems through which we created our world and thus, it is no wonder that there is so much hate, suffering and abuse in this world because we have never made sure that our children would become the best that they can be as we have limited them to what and who we are and let's face it - who we are isn't the best for all example as of yet.

 

So it is time to takes things into our hands and start investigating our belief system before it is too late; we must stop the cycle of ineffective production of human beings and instead, become the being that we can be, a being that moves, direct and walk according to that which is best for all. Only then we can ensure that what we show, teach and educate our children would bring the results of a world where we can trust each other, support and cared for each other, a world where we respect ourselves and each other - a world that is best for all living beings. It is up to us, it always has been so would we wait till we reach to a point of no return or would we take responsibility and correct ourselves and change?

A year or writing - Day 365

If anyone would have told me that I would, in some time in the future, be writing in English or even in Hebrew, for more than a year, every day, or almost every day, I would have said to them that they are crazy and there is no way in hell that I would be able to write so much.

Writing for me isn't something that came naturally, I was never known as a writer or someone who likes reading/writing but, here I am, writing for 365 days my journey to Life blogs.

 

I always had resistance to write, resistance to read, resistance to push beyond my accepted limitation because from my perspective, if I could have achieved something easily, than there is no point in push myself or to try harder to perfect the results. In my educational years, as long as everything came naturally and easy for me, I was the best that I could be and the moment things started to be hard, I automatically gave up on myself so that I won't have to face bad results. Little did I understand that everything was easy for me so long as my vocabulary was sufficient enough to be able to express myself but as I grow up, my vocabulary dropped in comparison to those with excellent vocabulary and because the problem was not understood, my solution was to drop out from everything that is challenging and to only walk the points that I can easily excel in.

 

But than came Desteni and I couldn't use my excuses of self limitation because I started to know better and I could only do that through reading and writing. As I've said many times before, this process that we are waling doesn't include any form of quick fix, there is no easy way out - it is a challenge, it takes a lot of self will and determination, it takes time and patience but today I can stand and say that if one dare oneself, one is able push through one's accepted limitations and to in fact expand oneself, one's understanding of oneself, of this world and human behaviour overall through the gift of writing. This is also why I'm so grateful I have people who walk this path with me as we encourage each other to break through the self created limitations and so, support not only ourselves but each other as a group.

 

Recently I pushed through my belief that I'm too old to learn new words and to improve my writing skills in English and I was astound to realize how easy and fun it can be to learn new words and actually integrate the words into my physical body so it can actually stay there for me to easily recall the words when I want to and with an awesome technology that is based also on the principle of Writing as a physical integration, I am now able to support myself in expanding my vocabulary and so, slowly but surely communicate and express myself in ways I wouldn't imagine possible for me.

 

Alright, so this is my yearly report of writing myself to freedom and I'll continue tomorrow with the question: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

Finish Everything on your Plate! - Day 355

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

Recent research has shown the relationship between Child Obesity and Parents ever going request: "Finish every on your plate". (Source: Parents who tell children to finish everything on their plates are 'fuelling obesity').

 

So what do we teach our children? Are we teaching them that food cannot be wasted? Are we teaching them the value of food?  Are we teaching them that it is Bad to not finish everything that is on your plate? Are we teaching them that it is impolite to not finish the food? Are we teaching them that they must feel guilty if they do not finish their food? Do we really know what is it that we are teaching them and have we actually realized that we are teaching them something within every word we speak to them?

 

What parents do not understand is the relationship between the words they speak and the influence the words would have on their child. So here is a good example to show how Words are in essence create our world and how words would influence the child's future whether it is their effectiveness as human beings, their success in life, the quality of their life, the decisions they will make and now we can clearly see not only the consequences on their physical body but also, the physiological effect obesity for instance would create in the child's life.

 

So it is interesting that thus far, Obesity was mostly looked at from the perspective of the Corporation responsibility in terms of their misleading advertisement and the unsupportive nutrition added to food but in terms of the actual responsibility of the parents, not much was said or studied.

 

This is because the Natural learning ability was not understood and one of the human's tendency is to always shift responsibility rather than investigating all things and accordingly take self responsibility. It is thus important to study and understand the influence of words/vocabulary on the child and within that, why and how the child would develop their entire personality, the 'who they are' already in the first 7 years of their life through the words the parents speak, the association the child would create to these words, the energy experience within it and the memories of the events related to these words.

 

Within that, one would be able to start understanding what does Natural learning ability is, how to use it correctly and effectively to enhance the child natural skills instead of us as parents, having to deal with consequences.

More about Words and the child Natural learning ability can be investigated on EQAFE within the interview series: Parenting - Perfecting the human race.