Investigate all things and keep that which is Best for all - Day 342

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

Another point that opened up while writing my previous blog is Critical Reasoning. To me, it seems that critical reasoning is almost non existent in this world and it is defiantly not something that is applied on our daily application.

 

Critical Reasoning/Thinking is the power to Question the information we have been exposed to and accordingly assess the authentically of the information, its alignments and validity within the Principle of That which is best for all or in other words: Investigate all things and keep that which is Best for all.

 

As children, we learn to accept/submit to our parents and as we grow older, we would either continue accepting/submitting to the Parental Authority or we would Reject it however, in both cases, we most likely wouldn't be able to explain in details our Decision processes in terms of the information that was available for us and our considerations when making a decision. Most likely that we would make irrational decision that is based on our Experiences, Emotions and Feelings rather than a practical common sense Decision that is based on the Principle of Investigate all things and keep that which is Best for all, which is anything but an irrational decision.

 

*Note, for Parental Authority/Control, I suggest reading through the blogs:

Rejection as Parental Control? - Day 335

Rejections as Parental Authority - Day 336

Where did my Child learn to Behave like that? - Day 338

Are we Aware of our Behavioural Development? - Day 339

 

As we grow up, we continue with our inherited pattern of Submitting/Rejection without our direct awareness - it has already become an absolute pattern we have accepted as ourselves, a pattern that we live as and by. We might change our frame of reference as our emotional/feeling body had absorb more memories and experiences however, in no way is our decision going to be based on reasoning thinking within the starting point of investigate all things and keep that which is best for all.

 

So then, we finish high school and start our lives in the world system with the same pattern of submitting or rejecting; here we would be more incline into submitting to the system as our survival depends on it. after all, we made sure we could maintain our pattern when we created the world system in the image and likeness of ourselves isn't it?

 

So - within it all, we were never actually taught/shown how to develop a critical reasoning. I mean, we might have been accepted and allowed the education system to brainwash us into believing that we are using our mind/brain to question and investigate new information but is it in fact so? Meaning, even when we apply critical reasoning, we do so within the frame of reference we have within ourselves which is again our memories, emotions and feelings that are based on our cultural/family design that we have accepted as ourselves and when we accepted it, we didn't investigated what is it that we are accepting did we?

 

Thus, Critical reasoning as the Power to Investigate all things and keep that which is Best for all implies that we must step out of our preprogram design and look at the greater picture and in that, all the relationships that are involved within any decision we would possibly make - who can be affected, what would be the possible outcomes, what are the risks, what are the benefits, is there any other options that are valid and aligned with the principle of what is best for all and if so than how? What can we adjust the point to stand within the Principle of Equality and that which is best for all?

 

If we start applying this method, changing ourselves and this world to a living experience that is best for all wouldn't be such a difficult task. The challenge however is to get ourselves to the point of absolute self honesty in terms of actually seeing the points above and take everything into consideration without our self interest as the directive principle but rather 'What is Best for All' as the directive Principle. That is not as easy as I would have liked it to be but it is possible and if you read through the hundreds of Journeys to Live writers, you would see that a change is possible if one dare and will oneself to change.

 

So to bring everything together - within the previous blog, I've shared my perspective about Psychology Experiments where I stated that according to my eye's view, psychological experiments are done without understanding the relationships of the Mind are dangerous since consequential outflows are not being considered in terms of a potential harm the experiment may have on the participants on a Quantum mind/Physical level. Now, when one is watching a documentary such as The Angry Eye: Jane Elliot, the immediate reaction would be of respect towards the experiment as it is showing a solution for a consequential world system such as Racism. Our emotions and feelings such as guilt, shame, anger is triggered when watching these types of documentaries and this is why, we would not question its validity in terms of the affect it has on the participants and the long term consequences it may lead them to. Furthermore, we would not question the source of the problem that created Racism in the first place but rather, accept racism as a status quo within our society and we would justify its existence with the saying: "the human nature cannot be changed" but as I've mentioned before, the journeys to Life writers prove that the human nature CAN change when one is making the directing decision to change through the principle of Investigate all things and keep that which is Best for all.

 

 

 

 

Does the Education system Prepare the Children to Face the World - Day 337

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

If you haven't already, I suggest reading through the previous blogs:

 

Who is Responsible for our Children's Education? - Day 332

Is the Zoo an Educational Experience for Children - Day 333

The Santa Claus Conspiracy - Can a Child Trust their Parents? - Day 334

Rejection as Parental Control? - Day 335

Rejections as Parental Authority - Day 336

 

 

In high school, I repeatedly heard that I must get good grades to be able to enter the university which from a certain perspective was redundant because I didn't care at that stage about the university - I wanted to go to the army, meet new people and afterwards, explore the world. The university was too far fetch for me to even connect the importance of high grades and University qualification. I remember specific back chat, every time I didn't excel a specific exam: "Well, you can always re take the exam after high school, don't bather yourself with it now". When I now look at this back chat, I could only afford having this back chat because I knew that my parents would pay anything related to my education and if it means that I will have to take an exam later on in my life, they would pay for it. within that, I didn't even take into consideration their financial stability and what they would have to scarify for me to have the best education possible.

 

From being the best, to giving up and avoiding potential rejections:

Here you must understanding the following time line -

I was the best in my class up until high school. I never had to study hard to get good grades, everything was easy for me and it was rare that I had to really sit down and study. However, being one of the best student came to my disadvantage when I went into high school since I was placed in a class of people like me, people that excelled in their previous years and now, being the top of the class was something extremely hard to manifest. All the pupils were very much oriented towards studying and I still wanted to have fun and spend time with my friends which became much difficult with the level of education taught in my class.

I just met my first boyfriend and I wanted to spend time with him without having to worry about studying. He was in a regular school in a regular class and therefor, didn't have to study hard in comparison to what was required of me. Also, in the summer before I started high school, I met lots of new friends that I really liked and I wanted to be with them and with my boyfriend and just have fun. Studying was not a priority I would have freely chosen at this stage.

 

This is where I lost all my ambition to succeed in life because I realized that to be successful, I would have to scarify a part of me that I didn't want to let go. That I would have to focus on being better, being more and so do so, I would have to compete - all of which I didn't want. I enjoyed it much better when I got good grades with the minimum effort. This is why, when I looked at my future back then, I saw nothing; this is when I made sure that what ever I would apply for, would be something that can be easily achieved, that I won't have to fight with anyone and that I won't have to spend extra time in perfecting my skills.

The principle, teachers and my parents, after 2 years eventually gave in to my protests and allowed me to give up on the hard subjects that were not obligatory subjects in terms of being able to graduate and accordingly, I did the minimum effort and I passed the exams with good grades because I only walked the exams that were obligatory. These exams are written for the average student which allowed me to excel them without any special effort and pressure.

 

So - would you say that the education system prepared me to face rejections? My own self rejections? Obviously not - It prepared me to make sure I would never again face rejections through utilizing the Money, connections and means my family had. The schooling system allowed me to give up on myself, compromise and limit myself to the extant of absolutely believing that I'm not good enough, not worthy enough, that I have no real chance in the system. Guess what I did after the army and my journeys across the globe - I took again the easy way out - I went into a private collage, knowing my parents would pay for it even if it cost 3 times more than a public university and again, the moment I faced a little bit of a struggle, I decide to leave;

Luckily, there was a student that was 20 years older than me that had decided to make a career change and become a lawyer; he convinced me to stay and walk with him and he promised me that he will show me the way and assist me with getting by without dedicating these entire years to constant studying. And so he did. And I could continue partying and working all night as a bartender, making lots of money to be able to travel again around the world in every chance I had.

 

After I graduated, when I started my 'adulthood' life, I went to work in telemarketing. The job was not demanding and I didn't have to push through any barriers accept for that I couldn't keep my bartender job and so, money became a problem. But then, another friend of mine, that saw the potential I have if I set my mind into something, offered me a job interview in the company he was working in. he vouch for me and after 5 min, I got the job. This job, was very much demanding and I had to learn a lot and stay focused all the time. I had to not only work during the day, but I had to work also during the nights. This is why, I wasn't so good at this job because I couldn't follow this method and I started to resent the system as a whole. After a year, I decided to quit and move into the spirituality direction. from there, I didn't have any demanding job for a few years; none of the jobs I did were challenging, jobs that I could expand myself and get promoted. I was very laid back and hoping that everything would eventually work out. I was in a process of crashing myself down and become nothing in this world while depending on my parents for a monthly budget to pay my rent.

 

So, from being the top in my class, to the average student, to giving up, I lost myself and saw myself as worthless. Nothing worked out for me. This is when I found Desteni.

 

At some stage I realize that if I ever want to be something, I must let the financial support I was given from my family go and do what ever is necessary to be done to get myself on my feet again and I started from scratch - I became a waitress again. However, here, I was already walking my process and had the tools to see the sabotaging process I was busy walking and how to assist and support myself to correct and change myself.

 

I was determine to stay out of the system and make it my own way and I took the initiative to quit my job and start my own business. That obviously, didn't work because I didn't have the initial funds required to have my own business. This is when I called the head of the telemarketing company I worked in a few years back and set a meeting with him to see what are my options now. Little did I know that he quit his job and open a new firm where I could really expand myself in. That the job he had for me was the first time I could finally recognize that I have what it takes to be something in this world. The job allowed me utilize my natural skills and perfect them. while he was my boss in the marketing company, he saw my natural skills that I wasn't aware of it yet and this is why, over the years, he used to call me and meet me for a coffee while trying to convince me to work for him. he observed all the changes that I've been through and by the time I was 'ready' to work for him, he knew what it would take to keep me in the company. So he gave me everything I needed - being my own boss, not being obligated to the office hours, doing my Desteni stuff and even better, he allowed me to prioritizing Desteni over this job because he knew that if I won't be able to do my Desteni stuff, I won't keep the job. And It worked well - it was a win-win situation for the both of us. I made the company successful in a year and I did it on my own terms.

 

So - things eventually worked out for me once I started taking responsibility for myself and stand accountable for who I am. If it wasn't for Desteni, there is little to no chance that I would have ever stood up again. 10 or more years of struggle because I wasn't willing to face rejections, to face perfections, to face responsibility and accountability. 10 or more years of absolute failure that could have been prevented if only I would learn the skills required to stand up in this world, while being in the Schooling education system.

How many of us had to walk through this cycle and learn in the hard way what does it mean to make it in this world and what one require to do to be able to make it? how many of us didn't have the financial nest to protect them and thus, found themselves in the streets or even worse? How many of us feels like a complete failure and useless and compromised our life to only get by?

 

Our Schooling system do not prepare the children to perfect their natural abilities and enhance who they are to be able to contribute to the world within their capacity and ability. The Schooling System in no way teach the children the basic life skill required to grow and expand who they are and what they can become. The Schooling System has one interest in mind - to keep the Beast sleeping to never question the effectiveness or ineffectiveness of the world system. This is why so little of us would actually stand up to correct and change the system. 

 

"Mass education was designed to turn independent farmers into docile, passive tools of production. That was its primary purpose. And don't think people didn't know it. They knew it and they fought against it. There was a lot of resistance to mass education for exactly that reason. It was also understood by the elites. Emerson once said something about how we're educating them to keep them from our throats. If you don't educate them, what we call "education," they're going to take control -- "they" being what Alexander Hamilton called the "great beast," namely the people. The anti-democratic thrust of opinion in what are called democratic societies is really ferocious. And for good reason. Because the freer the society gets, the more dangerous the great beast becomes and the more you have to be careful to cage it somehow."

Source: Noam Chomsky, David Barsamian (1996) Class Warfare: Interviews with David Barsamian. Monroe, ME: Common Courage Press

 

So the solution?

We cannot change what was done but we can start our own process of becoming a stable, effective, responsible and accountable human being in this world. We must trace back the origin of every decision we have ever make and see how we could change/correct the decision to stand in alignment to what is best for all life. We must stand as the directive principle, to lead the way for a greater change; a change of this world system within all it's dimension from Education, to Health care, to Housing and so on. This can be done with the Equal Money System.

So, a suggestion - walk your own self change first and support yourself with the free online course to gain the basic foundation from which you will be able to assist and support yourself in your process of self change. When you are ready to become the Key to change this reality - investigate the Equal Money System to see the possibilities of what can be practically be done to make sure that all lives are honourable, protected and respected. See the possibilities of how the Education system can be changed and transformed to a system that actually support the awakening of the beast within us to become responsible and accountable human being that are able to practically and effectively stand up and contribute for the better living of us all.

Rejections as Parental Authority - Day 336

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

If you haven't already, I suggest reading through the previous blogs:

 

Who is Responsible for our Children's Education? - Day 332

Is the Zoo an Educational Experience for Children - Day 333

The Santa Claus Conspiracy - Can a Child Trust their Parents? - Day 334

Rejection as Parental Control? - Day 335

 

 

A comment I received on my Previous blog: Rejection as Parental Control? - Day 335

 

"I agree to an extent. It is also key for the child to understand who is in authority. When explanation is constantly given; the child can view themselves as an equal to the parent and as entitled to an explanation and therefore justification to obey. That is a mistake."

 

Perspective:

 

If you haven't already, I suggest reading through Day 340: What is Authority? by creation's Journey to Life where it was explained in simple Common Sense What Real Authority is:

 

"Authority is the Taking of Responsibility to Produce a Form of Management, Government, Directive Principle and Outcome that is Best for Everyone…"

 

"...Authority is That which Life Grants Each One Equally, the Authority as Life…"

 

Within that context, what is Parental Authority?

 

"..An Authority in Parenting would be to Show the Child ‘What is Best,’ How to Coexist Best without Fear in Peace in Harmony with Everyone else, Without Abusing or Dominating another, Without Enslaving another through Fear.."

 

And as I've mentioned in my Previous blog:

 

"...The tendency of parents is to simply answer: "No" and "Because I said so", without any form of explanation, without showing the common sense behind the decision and without teaching the child how to look at all things and decides on that which is best. In that, what parents are normally missing is the understanding that with showing these things to the child, and stand as an example of how to Deal with Dilemmas, how to solve problems and more importantly, how to prevent a problem as a foundation/tool the child would effectively grow and expand themselves instead of becoming ineffective emotional machine that would shape and form their characters to either submit, rebel or suppress their experience of rejections.."

 

Within the context of the Comment above, it is implied that the child isn't equal and cannot be equal to their parents which is bizarre if one would look at it because: didn't the child come from the Flesh of their parents and thus, on a physical level, is equal to and one as the parent? So then thus, what separate the child from the Parent is the Belief that the child isn't equal to the parent so that the parent could superimpose their authority onto the child without realizing that this type of authority is abusive. Why?

 

When authority is used to perpetuate the inequality within the family structure, one do not see, realize and understand that one is in essence, doom their child to be and become ineffective human being in this world.

See, when the child doesn't receive explanation for the Parent's decision, the child would not learn how to expand their seeing through investigating all things and keep that which is best and accordingly, the child may develop the habit of accepting things as they are, even when it's not for the best and would thus, not question and see the relationships involve in any decision one is making, the outflows and the consequences. Thus, the child would not be able to evaluate and assess the problem one would face or more importantly, figure out in a practical manner how to prevent a problem from occurring.

Within this, the child would turn out to be dysfunctional being who is not able to develop reasoning thinking, common sense and become effective in this world which is exactly the reason why we live in a world where solutions and preventions is not part of our daily participation but rather, accepting the world system as it is despite of the abuse and suffering that is part is existing and a direct divertive of our world system, without ever investigate all things and keep that which is best for all.

 

What needs to be investigated is why the parents is unwilling to stand as their child's equal and walk as the Principle of Give as you would like to Receive. Meaning, if you place yourself in the shoes of your child: would you like to be given an answer such as "No, because I said so" without understanding the reason for the rejection, what is the starting point of the rejection and what was the parent looking at when making the decision to answer: "No.? I'm pretty sure you would not appreciate such a thing.

 

If one would look in self honesty, when we automatically say: "No" it is most often a reaction. Whether the reaction is coming from Fear of Past experiences, the reaction would deny us from looking in common sense at all the possibilities and outflows that are involved within a decision.

Our Children are very sensitive to their environment and therefore, within themselves, they would pick up whether or not we have been self honest and genuine in our answer/approach/decision. From there, the child would either accept or reject the Decision. Meaning, if the child accept the parent's self-dishonesty, the child would tend to submit and if the child reject the parent's Self-dishonesty, the child would try to manipulate or rebel. In both scenario, the actions and behaviour that would form a part in how the child would create their personality/character that would play a role in their adulthood lives when facing moments of decisions.

Here, I would suggest listening to Parenting - Perfecting the Human Race - Part 3 where it was specifically discussed the point of accepting or rejecting the Energies the child would pick up from their Parents words.

 

"...look at the consequences of a parent asserting authority over the child - as this is what has essentially made it possible for beings to exist as they are today because we raise our children to give in and/or give up their 'power' to authority, regardless of whether or not the being in an authority position is actually able to be trusted to take responsibility and make decisions that are for the best.  The teaching of 'understanding authority' leads to conflict within the individual because of the self-doubt and self-distrust as a result of being told that an authority figure is right and knows what is best - regardless of whether or not there is common sense…" (perspective written by a friend of mine who is a mother of 5 years old child)

 

So, what is behind the belief that the child is not our equals will be further discussed in blogs to come.

Rejection as Parental Control? - Day 335

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

If you haven't already, I suggest reading through the previous blogs:

 

Who is Responsible for our Children's Education? - Day 332

Is the Zoo an Educational Experience for Children - Day 333

The Santa Claus Conspiracy - Can a Child Trust their Parents? - Day 334

 

As children, we often hear the words: "NO" or "Don't do that" and when we ask "Why" the answer in many cases is: "Because I said so". Fortunately, I do not have the personal experience of the Physical 'expression' of getting a slap or even worse but in some cultures and/or family structures, giving a slap to your child is educational approach to show the child who is the boss in the Child/Parent relationship. Within this, what the parents teach their child is that Rejection may Lead to Physical harm if one wouldn't accept the Rejection and submit to the parent authority and so, our learnt behaviour is to Fear Rejection because it may be associated with Physical and/or Emotional Harm if we only dare to question the hierarchical structure.

And thus, we would either submit to the Parental Authority of Rejections to our wants/needs/desires or we would start to rebelling. Let's have a closer look:

 

The tendency of parents is to simply answer: "No" and "Because I said so", without any form of explanation, without showing the common sense behind the decision and without teaching the child how to look at all things and decides on that which is best. In that, what parents are normally missing is the understanding that with showing these things to the child, and stand as an example of how to Deal with Dilemmas, how to solve problems and more importantly, how to prevent a problem as a foundation/tool the child would effectively grow and expand themselves instead of becoming ineffective emotional machine that would shape and form their characters to either submit, rebel or suppress their experience of rejections.

 

We start building up resentment towards our parents. We start keeping secrets from them so that we won't have to face the rejection and face the decision of submitting or rebelling. Maybe this is when our 'individuality' starts developing, when we start creating ourselves as Characters, as a reaction to the rejection we had faced because now, we must decide, who would we be, what would we be and what would we have to do to be who and what we want/desire to be and so, we would decide to: Submit or Rebel?

 

And so, the child that is unprepared to face the world, will face many types and kinds of rejections: either a rejection from a job, rejected from schools/studies or when asking someone out - everyone faces rejections in their lives, it cannot be prevented. What can be prevented are the reactions that follow the rejection. If only the parents would have stood as an example and show the child how to deal with the rejections shown above, another story would be told about our children.

 

So, what is the current story of our Children? What are the Forces in play in moments of Rejections? How to handle rejections and transforming them into a window of opportunity to align, adjust and perfect ourselves? That will be discussed in my next blog.