That moment when you hear people talking about you (Part 3) - Day 540

Continuing with the previous blog where I discussed my relationship to overhearing someone talking about me and what revealed during the process of investigating this points inside of myself. As well as the solutions and practical support I've been practicing in real time moments. For context, please read: That moment when you hear people talking about you (Part 1) - Day 538 and That moment when you hear people talking about you (Part 2) - Day 539

In this blog post I will talk about the importance of stopping the reactions towards another person talking about you and how to take the 'negative' experience and transform it to a life lesson from which you can empower yourself from.

Let's go to the basics for a moment. To the root cause of why we are so afraid of one another; why it is so easy to break someone's trust; Why we fear being vulnerable with each other; why we react to judgement so much.

Here, I ask you all to move yourself for just a moment, to a point of self-honesty when answering the following questions:

Is it because of us knowing how deep the rabbit hole goes? Meaning, seeing the extent of our own mind and how nasty we can be when no one is hearing/watching our thoughts? And because we know how Negative and judgemental we can be in our mind, we assume that other people's mind is exactly the same. Isn't that so?

So yes, sometimes our nasty thoughts are coming into the open in a form of gossiping about someone with another. And Yes, it is not valid.. These thoughts need to be removed by each one of us taking personal responsibility for our own mind. But we are not yet there as it is a process that needs to be walked by each one of us individually.

What took me so long to realize was that when someone gossip about you, it is another in their mind that is speaking.. It is not the deep real being that is so suppressed underneath the layers of their mind. Meaning, it is not personal towards you, it is just the mind being exposed to the extent of its automated programming that they need to step out from with awareness. But the question is - how to create that awareness? Can they be aware if you are reacting to them instead of supporting them to be aware of that one singular point they have exposed themselves to?

As long as we react to the words spoken in that moment, we are not just compromising our relationship with others, we also compromise the other's personal growth, and the chance that they have to change in that real time moment when we stand up and show them what they have accepted and allowed, in giving their mind absolute control over their physical reality.

It is time we move ourselves from reaction to solutions.. To walk out of the reaction and to stand up as the solution. I know it is easy said than done but we have to start practicing this skill. Like with any skill, mistakes are going to be made and we are going to stumble until we find our feet within it all but eventually we would; I am ready to start. Are you?

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Art: Gossiping by Itzchak Tarkay

Copy Paste Character–The Education System - Day 184

This is a continuation to:

Copy Paste Character - the Way for Success? - Day 183

 

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to question the education system that encouraged me to develop and create the 'Copy-Paste' Character within and as myself and as I've explained in my Previous blog for example, in my University, we had open books exams where we were allowed to bring past years exams which were the exact copy of the exam I was writing and within that, all I had to do in order to get a high Mark was to copy paste the information and vomit it into my exam sheets.

 

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to develop, empower and grow myself within my higher studies because I didn't see why I should do so when it was so easy to get high marks in the exams without any effort on my side to actually understand and apply the information for and as myself. Within this, I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself to define education through Marks as I was brought up to believe that to be successful, one must have high marks to open the doors of success and as long as this side of the equation is safe and sound, there is no real reason to make any effort in educating myself for real as this world, is not based on real, valid and practical education, it is about status, money, connections and my smile that would pave the way before me, to be and become a successful human being in this world.

 

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed a world where the education system that is based on a rewards as consumerism, utilizing one's self interest desire for a specific experience and in doing so attract people into the education system without telling them that the education system is in no way a real, substantial and practical education for human beings to be and become a better humans in this world but rather, has become the tool to make the humans be less then who they are, with one gaol in front of their eyes - The path to Money and success.

 

Within that, I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to research and investigate the starting point in the world wide education system factories that utilize human behaviour research to further brainwash people into a complete consumerism robot that is functions on a reward system to satisfied one's self interest desire and in that, the current education systems in this world further enslaving people into their own minds and keeping humans as ignorant and powerless as possible, in never developing a critical thinking that would force them to look at their acceptance and allowances which led to a world of absolute control, abuse and suffering without anyone standing up and call for a world wide change that would be best for all. Further expand your understanding through watching the documentary - The College Conspiracy.

 

And as I'm writing now, a news article was just publish about Massive Copy Paste and drops in Marks in the Israeli Education System. And who is to blame if not the education system? The kids that cheated within a system that encourage it?? http://www.ynet.co.il/articles/0,7340,L-4292336,00.html.

 

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to realize that the blame is not on the students that are becoming a copy-paste character robotic machines that are seeking for the quick way for success in having things done but the blame is on our acceptance and allowances of creating a world system that do not motivate children to perfect themselves and their LIFE skills in becoming a better and effective human beings in this world. In this, I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to see my responsibility in accepting and allowing a world system that utilize the education system to further diminish the human beings as who they are as I've not stood up and called for a change in a global scale within and as the world system as a whole and the education system in particular.

 

To be Continued..

 

 

Copy Paste Character - the Way for Success? - Day 183

I like short cuts, I like having things done quick, I like the magic wand, I like getting to the finish line without having to make much of an effort to get there. And - that's was what I was doing throughout my Life through utilizing the Copy-Paste Character; only what I haven't considered is the consequences and that within the Copy-Paste Character, I'm not really assisting and supporting myself to grow and Expand myself - all I was doing was creating a time loop that would take me much longer to correct, diminishing myself to the level of becoming a robotic human being with none critical thinking and self investigation.

 

How I have justified the Validity of existing as the Copy-Paste character is through - "I don't have time", "I need to have this done ASAP", "I don't know how to do it so well, and I don't want to spend time on something others would do better then me", "I don't know how to do this", "I will have to research and investigate the point thoroughly and I don't have the time to do so, better to simply copy-paste", "I must have it done so that I have time for more things to be done", "oh, I'm not good enough, they presented it better, I trust their application, I will simply copy paste from them".

 

When looking at the Fear dimension - if I won't do as much as I could possible do, I'll be useless and be defined as such. If I won't have it done, I will fail, I will be nothing. If I won't have it done, I won't have pleasure time so in essence, the Fear Dimension is - Fear of being Judged and disrespectful, Fear of Failure.

It's Funny because I have the tendency to take as many responsibilities as possible but within the copy paste character, what I'm now seeing, realizing and understanding that I've abdicated my responsibility from the perspective of - I don't trust myself to apply the point "correctly" and thus, I will use the application that was done by others because I trust their application and within that- I'm abdicating my own responsibility to apply myself within Self Trust, for MYSELF when and as I see a task that must be done because that is what's best for all.

 

When did I start applying the Copy-Paste character - High School. I remember having to study for a literature exams where we had to read 5 or more stories or poetry and then, analyse it and write about our understanding of it. I didn't want to do it because it wasn't a cool thing to do meaning - the cool people in my school didn't read the material, they simply read the short version that was passing around with prepared questions and answered. They also watched the movie instead of reading the book or what ever the assignment was. And I, wanted to be cool as well so I did the same, only read the short version of the story, studied the past years exams and got my A. I mean, it was easy - all I had to do is copy the information into my brain and paste it on the exams sheet. after the exam was done, I deleted the information cause I didn't have any reason to keep it there or any use of it later on in my life. Or so I believed.

 

So, my training for life in high school already was - Copy-Paste have good results and I don't need to really study and understand what I study, all I need to do is to temporarily insert the information to my mind and vomit it onto the exam sheets.

In the University - it was much EASIER process because the exams were with open books. So all I had to do is make sure I have good books and notes from people that actually studied, study their notes, make sure I know how to allocate the material quickly and again, vomit all the information to the exam sheets and get a good mark. Lol, it became much easier in my final year when I discovered that the exams each year are exactly the same and one could take the past year exams, with the answers already prepared and literally, copy paste the information into one's exam.

 

Side note - initially I thought it was a stupid thing from the university side to give us the very same exams from the years before but now, I understand the starting point in doing such a thing - having students with high grades, elevate the university reputation and with a good reputation, more money comes in. Which means, that the education system doesn't really want you to grow and expand yourself, but to rather be automated machine, with no real critical thinking and integration of the material in one's day to Day living application but they rather wants your money and use you to generate more money. On that note, I suggest watching the documentary - The College Conspiracy.

 

And now, this copy-paste character is still a character I see myself using within my day to day living application where I would look for the short cut, the quick fix, not seeing absolutely the consequences and the harm I'm creating not only for myself but for our group as a whole as within walking as the copy paste character - my support is not absolute, my standing is not absolute and the example I'm showing is not absolutely aligned within and as the principle of that which is best for all.

 

So - time to say 'Bye Bye' to the character through a process of Self Forgiveness and to instead, investigate each and every starting point in each and every task that I'm doing and within that, make sure that the starting point is Self Realization as to who I am within what I do and how who I am within what I do must result in the best for all out come.

Within that, to realize that having more and more responsibilities while they are not being walked as effective as possible is useless. Better to focus and make the best out of everything that I do instead of having things half way done and in that, compromise myself and the group as a whole.