Anger Management: Don't bottle up your anger! - Day 526

It is a known fact that unresolved emotions and feeling can affect and compromise our physical body. Yet, many of us refuse to acknowledge this fact and thus allow ourselves to continue bottling up with massive anger, hatred, blame, judgement and so forth.

It is also a known fact that Anger and similar intense emotions can sabotage our relationships with our loved ones, threaten our career and our social life as a whole. Yet, most of us will not step back for a moment and really investigate the core cause of our anger and other intensified emotions.

In the last couple of years, we hear more and more about 'Anger management' programs.

"Anger management is a procedure of acquiring the skills to recognize signs that you are becoming angry, and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. In no way does anger management mean holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger. Anger is a normal human emotion, a healthy one when it is expressed appropriately. "

Medical News Today : Your source for health news since 2003. www.medicalnewstoday.com

"(psychology) techniques or exercises used to control or reduce feelings and the expression of anger"

Collins English Dictionary - http://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/anger-management

"Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately — anger management is about learning how to do this."

Mayo Clinic - http://www.mayoclinic.org/

It is fascinating to see how our professional society defines Anger as 'healthy' or 'normal human emotion' and within that validate the existence of anger inside of ourselves.

Shocking news people!!!! anger is not healthy or normal human behaviour. In fact, studies shows that anger can be deadly:

"Anger's physical side effects explain why you frequently see studies about the damage that this emotion can do to our bodies. In one study of almost 13,000 subjects, individuals with the highest levels of anger had twice the risk of coronary artery disease and three times the risk of heart attack, as compared to the subjects with the lowest levels of anger [source: Kam]. Some scientists think that chronic anger may be more dangerous than smoking and obesity as a factor that will contribute to early death [source: Angier]."

Source: http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/anger2.htm

So then, what are the solution for people with anger issues?

Well, as with everything in life, nothing will change unless we each take responsibility for our creation. So as with taking responsibility in acknowledging that anger isn't normal or needed in anyway whatsoever. On a personal level - there is a difference between letting go of anger and manging anger. Managing your anger means that you are still holding on to your anger on the deep level of your mind. Letting go of the anger means that you have sourced the root cause of your anger, you have taken authority inside of yourself to let go of your anger and you have forgiven yourself for participating with anger towards yourself or others. In reality, like with every real process, there isn't a quick fix - changing to a point of being 'free' of anger will take time and personal effort to affect a real change inside of yourself. Manging anger takes care of the symptoms of the problem while acknowledging that anger is valid. Letting unconditionally go of anger is a process that source the root cause, through the layers of the mind to practically affect a real life change.

Where to go next - look for self-help guides that help you source the root cause of your inner anger so that you are able to absolutely let go of anger inside of yourself. A good place to start with is a self-development program called DIP Lite - it is a free online course that teach you the basic tools to understand your mind, both theoretically and practically. 

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Art work - Anger by Gun Legler

The Botox Epidemic - Day 362

 

 

Continuing with the Question Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?

 

"For many of the injections use a drug made from the most lethal poison known to man"

 

"One of the most deadly poisons known to man has been turned into a radical new treatment that could benefit thousands of stroke victims. Botulinum toxin, or Botox, is so dangerous in high doses that it can kill by paralysing the body's muscles"

 

"A British mother who admitted on American TV that she gave her eight-year-old daughter Botox injections has had the child taken away by social workers.

‘What I am doing for Britney now will help her become a star. I know one day she will be a model, actress or singer, and having these treatments now will ensure she stays looking younger and baby-faced for longer. All I want is for Britney to have the best start in life, so it is easier for her to become a superstar."

 

"Across Britain, the goal among today’s youth-obsessed 20-somethings seems to be age prevention.

In fact, according to a recent Superdrug survey, women become concerned about the effects of ageing at just 29, with their top worries being wrinkles and crow’s feet.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Anne Marie Gillet, of Transform Cosmetic Surgery, says the company has seen a 56 per cent year-on-year increase in inquiries for wrinkle-smoothing treatments among 18 to 25-year-olds."

 

So I am asking - Who is responsible for our children's education? Who is responsible for our children's health?

Why these procedures are even allowed to be done on children without a psychological consult?

It is scary to even think about what our children are exposed to, what they accept as their value system when they watch TV, what ideas they insert into their minds, what desires and beliefs;  all of that is done without any parental input and in many cases, even when parental input it shared, the input isn't what is best for the child to actually accept themselves, trust themselves and grow in self-confidence.

Instead, we hear about celebrities that have fucked up their body under the knife of plastic doctors who would do anything for money and even though it is absolute disgusting, we would stand in awe and say - "It look so good on her, I want a surgery too/ I must get my child under the knife so that she could have a chance in life to become a superstar" - these strange things do happen and don't think that if that didn't happen to you or with you, that you are not part of the problem because We are all part of this problem. Mother of 8 years old girl that injected Botox to her child is our direct responsibility - because none of us had actually stood up and demand that only that which is best for all will be allowed in this world.

 

So please, when you read about Celebrities that overdue cosmetic procedures or kids between 8-25 having Botox done - do not judge their parents, do not judge the child or the doctors because realize - we have created a world system where such things are accepted and allowed. We have not created a  best for all education that would actually enhance the natural skills of a child to become the best the child can be, we have not establish an education system that support the basic life skills all should have and we have certainly, do not stand as an example for the younger generation.

 

Thus - isn't it the time to stop judging, blaming and complaining about what we see/hear on the news but instead, to start coming with solutions that can actually be part of a global change that is best for all?

If you understand what I'm saying here and would like to stand as an example, as a key for a change that is best for all and thus best for you too, if you understand what care really is - investigate and study the Equal Money System wiki pages, the Equal money blogs and vlogs.

 

 

The Secret War between Women - Mother Daughter relationship - Part 3 - Day 55

This is a continuation to:

The Secret War between Women - Overview - Day 52

The Secret war between Women - the Childhood years - Part 1 - Day 53

The Secret War between Women starts at home - Part 2 - Day 54

I forgive myself that I've NOT accepted and allowed myself to see the influential consequences of the dynamics between the Mother/Daughter relationship and the secret war between Women, where the first War would be between the Mother and the child for example would manifest when and as the child 'perceives' the authority of the mother to be too rigid/not understanding/unsupportive and would then thus, develop back chat towards the mother which eventually externalized and become a habit in one's life towards other female that represent the mother figure in one's life.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to use my authority upon my child without walking with them the time line so that they could see the common sense equality equations for themselves and I have failed to realized that when I'm playing the authority game with them, it is inevitable they will create a resistance towards me and would then thus,  develop their rebellion war against me as a response to my authority game - the beginning of the Secret War between Women.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself, as a mother in this world, to for example, superimpose my fears onto my daughter and would forbid her to participate in social gathering which I've defined as inappropriate or dangerous without taking a moment to look in a practical common sense way whether my fears has any ground in the physical reality due to me that have inherited my fears from my parents which then influenced me within how I would direct points in my world instead of supporting myself to first turn the point back to myself, allocate my starting point and support myself to see the points directly through practical Self Forgiveness and corrective application.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself as a mother in this world to NOT realize, that by not communicating with my daughter through explaining in common sense why I believe that my daughter should not walk a specific path and thus forbid her from walking it by using my mother authority, my daughter will resist my authority and create a backchat/thoughts/internal conversations/reactions towards me which would perpetuate the secret war between women already at home.

I forgive myself that I've accepted and allowed myself to superimpose my failure within my Life onto my child , fearing that they will also fail, wherein I will teach her how to not make the same mistakes as I did and thus push her to excel in all areas of LIFE to have the best from all - Man, Career, children, clothes, friendships etc. and within that, I have failed to realize that my desires are not my child's desires and by me forcing her to walk a specific path which is not her own, she will create and manifest resistance towards my up bringing of her exactly as I have done towards my mother and within that, continue the cycle of War between women - mother/daughter generation after generation.

I commit myself to show the relationship between the superimposed authority of the mother upon her daughter and the secret war between women and within that, I commit myself to support mothers to learn how to upbringing their children in the utmost effective way by first sorting themselves to be able to stand as an example for their children, be able to understand themselves as their children and to walk in equality with them in absolute support for them to become effective human beings in this world.

I commit myself to show and explain in details the consequences of the existential inherited fears from generation after generation from the beginning of time and present, stand as a support for those who dare investigating themselves and physically/practically change according to principles of that which is best for all.

I commit myself to present technics and methods to support the parents with the upbringing of their children and to stop, for once and for all the abusive superimpose  authority upon children  and instead, establish a supportive relationship with them that will be based on self respect, trust and honesty.