Anger Management: Don't bottle up your anger! - Day 526

It is a known fact that unresolved emotions and feeling can affect and compromise our physical body. Yet, many of us refuse to acknowledge this fact and thus allow ourselves to continue bottling up with massive anger, hatred, blame, judgement and so forth.

It is also a known fact that Anger and similar intense emotions can sabotage our relationships with our loved ones, threaten our career and our social life as a whole. Yet, most of us will not step back for a moment and really investigate the core cause of our anger and other intensified emotions.

In the last couple of years, we hear more and more about 'Anger management' programs.

"Anger management is a procedure of acquiring the skills to recognize signs that you are becoming angry, and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. In no way does anger management mean holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger. Anger is a normal human emotion, a healthy one when it is expressed appropriately. "

Medical News Today : Your source for health news since 2003. www.medicalnewstoday.com

"(psychology) techniques or exercises used to control or reduce feelings and the expression of anger"

Collins English Dictionary - http://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/anger-management

"Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately — anger management is about learning how to do this."

Mayo Clinic - http://www.mayoclinic.org/

It is fascinating to see how our professional society defines Anger as 'healthy' or 'normal human emotion' and within that validate the existence of anger inside of ourselves.

Shocking news people!!!! anger is not healthy or normal human behaviour. In fact, studies shows that anger can be deadly:

"Anger's physical side effects explain why you frequently see studies about the damage that this emotion can do to our bodies. In one study of almost 13,000 subjects, individuals with the highest levels of anger had twice the risk of coronary artery disease and three times the risk of heart attack, as compared to the subjects with the lowest levels of anger [source: Kam]. Some scientists think that chronic anger may be more dangerous than smoking and obesity as a factor that will contribute to early death [source: Angier]."

Source: http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/anger2.htm

So then, what are the solution for people with anger issues?

Well, as with everything in life, nothing will change unless we each take responsibility for our creation. So as with taking responsibility in acknowledging that anger isn't normal or needed in anyway whatsoever. On a personal level - there is a difference between letting go of anger and manging anger. Managing your anger means that you are still holding on to your anger on the deep level of your mind. Letting go of the anger means that you have sourced the root cause of your anger, you have taken authority inside of yourself to let go of your anger and you have forgiven yourself for participating with anger towards yourself or others. In reality, like with every real process, there isn't a quick fix - changing to a point of being 'free' of anger will take time and personal effort to affect a real change inside of yourself. Manging anger takes care of the symptoms of the problem while acknowledging that anger is valid. Letting unconditionally go of anger is a process that source the root cause, through the layers of the mind to practically affect a real life change.

Where to go next - look for self-help guides that help you source the root cause of your inner anger so that you are able to absolutely let go of anger inside of yourself. A good place to start with is a self-development program called DIP Lite - it is a free online course that teach you the basic tools to understand your mind, both theoretically and practically. 

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Art work - Anger by Gun Legler

Death Research - Day 350

 

This blog is not to terrify you or to make you be more fearful with regards to Death, it is rather to show you how little do we really know and how important it is to investigate all things and keep that which is best for all.

I've recently invested my time in listening to the Death Research interviews which is again to me, emphasized how we have created all sort of assumptions and opinions about Death without actually speaking with anyone that had died, someone who could share in details every moment of their death experience; you know, the real nitty gritty details and not just: "I saw the light".

 

The Death Research interviews are Fascinating from the perspective of being able to walk with a person who actually experience death, the moments of death and what is really happening to the Mind, the Physical and the being in those crucial moments.

I had this fantasy that upon death for instance, one would no longer experience Physical pain, that everything is gone, disappear and you are out of here but as with all fantasies it doesn't work like that.

I had this idea that I can trust what Science describe about death when for example the doctors says to the family of a person who died in traumatic event that the person didn't feel anything, that they lost consciousness and thus couldn't feel a thing. Unfortunately, that is not the case.

 

So why then, is it important to listen to these interviews? For myself, it is a point of motivation to actually Live and Use the time I have left to do something that is constructive, supportive and meaningful on earth, instead of reaching to my end of Life to only find out that I've missed Life while being on earth. Now, that doesn't mean that one should let go of all one's responsibility and have as much fun as possible. No, that is again not real LIFE but a distraction from the actual Gift of Life that only us, as individuals can discover for ourselves unless it is too late, and we die, without being able to come back and correct ourselves.

 

If anything, fearing Death is useless because so long as we fear what is defiantly certain, how can we honestly Live? How did we miss such a simple point of fearing something that is so definitive like the fact that we will die one day while all along, we are missing ourselves when having the physical opportunity to discover the actuality of ourselves as Life, an opportunity that will no longer exists at death. I mean, do you know anyone who didn't die? No right?! So why do we fear dying if it something that is so natural and if we appreciate life so much that we don't want to die, why isn't this appreciation is shown in a physical measurable manner?

 

If we really cared about Life, wouldn't we be busy creating a world where LIFE could be lived by all without having to face struggles, abuse and the atrocities that the majority of us are daily experiencing?

So, there is defiantly a dichotomy here - we fear Death and we do not want to die but yet, we do not appreciate Life according to our collective physical actions. So it is time to investigate these points and become clear about our starting point in terms of deciding if we appreciate and care about LIFE or we just here, till we die, spending the moments we've got left until our Life will be taken from us without any free will. I mean, we do not decide the time we die isn't?

 

So, the Death Research interview Series, describes specific events of death such as Heart Attack, Burning alive in a car accident, Drowning and soon you can find out what one IS experiencing when falling from a tall building. These interviews shocked me as it was nothing I could imagine; Investigate the points, prepare yourself to Life because you are living so why the hell we are not physically living but rather allowing our own mind to dictate us who and what we are? If you Dare to know the truth and debunk your fears - invest in this interview series.