Self-Empowerment as living Principle - Day 516

In my previous blog I ended off with:

"…This was an overview of what personal-movement within self-empowerment practically means though this blog post is a start of a series where we will explore the practical application of self-movement within self-empowerment. In the next blog post, I will continue with the difference between self-interest and principle when it comes to personal-movement within self-empowerment as from that starting point decision, living personal movement as an expression of ourselves lay. "

 

So let's start with firstly defining what 'living principle' means - a living principle is that which you direct yourself to live by as who you are within everything that you do. It is that through which you guide your life and your relationships irrespective of changes in circumstances you may face. Having clarity about your life principles can bring you insights into the potential consequences, may it be negative or positive, within any decision that you make to assist and support you with minimizing or prevent the consequences that are not best for you or for others for that matter. An example of a life principle is 'give as you would like to receive' because the nature of this principle is consideration of others and life as a whole.

 

As explained in the previous blogs, self-empowerment is the application of the realization that only I can empower myself within the decisions that I make and the directions that I give to myself in any given moment. it is one’s power to direct one’s reality, based on a decision that one is making in any given moment as a principle that one lives by. Within that, self-movement would be the action that follows the decisions that I make with absolute commitment to myself irrespective of the outcome as I trust that I will make the alignment needed to reach my goals/success.

 

Thus far, we have defined what is self-empowerment, self-movement and life principle. So what is the difference between personal movement in self-empowerment that is principles based vs. self-interest base.

 

Have a look - you can decide for instance to move yourself from being employees towards becoming entrepreneurs and within that, you would experience self-empowerment as the success of the business is a direct relationship to the time and effort that you put into the business. Now, when you reached a point of success and you are profitable and are living a very comfortable life you must ask yourself -

"Am I living by life principles or am I living in self-interest?"

 

For instance, if we take 'give as you would like to receive' as a life principle we may consider to use a percentage of our profit to give back to society or to donate to a nonprofit organizations that actively aiming to create a change in this world. Why? We must understanding that we were lucky to be in a position that allowed us to leave our jobs and start a business because we were born in the 'right side' of the equation while the majority of this world were born into the 'wrong side' of the equation with no access to money, education, health care, nutrition and so forth; and if we place ourselves in their shoes, wouldn't we want to receive support from those who are in a financial position that allows them to support us to get access to education, to money to healthcare and so forth? I am sure we all do.

 

Another way to look at personal movement within self-empowerment that is based on principle is to ask ourselves -  "Am I empowering myself AND others or am I walking on other people's toes to gain my individual self-empowered experience?" Here you may find that while you are on the path of personal self-empowerment, you would sabotage other people's life in reaching your personal goals and thus, may want to reassess your commitments and application to one that is life principle based.

 

Yes, I do understand that within this current world system, sometimes we will make tough decisions that may seem as if we acted upon self-interest baseline though, this is for each and every one to assess their self-honesty whether the decision that we made is one that is of support of life or whether the decision that we made is of self-interest.

 

Will be continued…

 

 

 

 

Personal Movement within Self-Empowerment - Day 515

What is personal Movement within self-empowerment? to answer this question, we first have to define the words "Personal-Movement". What is Personal-movement?

Personal movement is an expression of ourselves where in any given moment, we are the directive principle of our own reality, inside and out,  deciding to give ourselves direction in taking action. Action can be anything really, can be a decision to make breakfast, a decision to step out of the house and go to work, a decision to make a phone call, a decision to rest, and even a decision to stop the ranting and raving in the mind and take a breath.

 

As I discussed in one of my previous blogs: Self-Empowerment - Practical Living - The Decision (Part 3) - Day 511 - everything we do or do not do in our lives comes down to a decision that we make in real time moments. The outflows of these decisions may or may not be the desirable outcome though, though it is an outcome that is deriving from the decisions that we made.

 

When it comes to Self-Movement within Self-Empowerment, what we must realize is that we can either decide to continue waiting for random events to take place in our lives or we can decide that we are the directive principle of our lives and as such, it is up to us to empower ourselves within the movements/actions that we take while considering the possible outcomes within the principles that we have set forth for ourselves to live by.

 

Waiting or hoping that certain events will play out the way we would have liked it to plat out is an expression of deliberate disempowerment as we abdicate our responsibility to direct our lives and support the lives of others. Usually, when the playouts aren't the desirable ones, we would continually blame and resent those that were involved in the playout while not seeing that all this time we were sitting in our comfort zone without taking any action. Those who living self-movement within self-empowerment as an expression of themselves are actively moving themselves to a point of achieving the goals that they set for themselves as they have realized it is up to them to direct their environment no matter what the outcome may be.

 

Now, one thing we all must realize - our self-movement within self-empowerment is not define by the outcome meaning, whether the outcome is negative or positive, it doesn't change who we are in the sense of - if the outcome was not satisfactory, one can give up and go back to a point of self-disempowerment, blaming or resenting OR, one can learn from the outcome and align themselves and/or their application/action until the outcome is satisfactory. Yes, it may be a long path to walk with a lot of hurdles on the way though the one who have mastered 'self-movement' within self-empowerment will continue walking, no matter what - no hurdle will stand in their way to achieve the goals they set forth for themselves.

 

This was an overview of what personal-movement within self-empowerment practically means though this blog post is a start of a series where we will explore the practical application of self-movement within self-empowerment. In the next blog post, I will continue with the difference between self-interest and principle when it comes to personal-movement within self-empowerment as from that starting point decision, living personal movement as an expression of ourselves lay.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Self-Empowerment - Practical Living - The Decision (Part 3) - Day 511

Continuing with:

Self-Empowerment - Practical Living (Part 1) - Day 509

Self-Empowerment - Practical Living (Part 2) - Day 510

Let’s first define what Self Empowerment is – It is the application of the realization that only I can empower myself within the decisions that I make and the directions that I give to myself in any given moment. it is one’s power to direct one’s reality, based on a decision that one is making in any given moment as a principle that one lives by.

If we look at the examples from the previous blog where an image activated a reaction in you - In that moment, you faced a decision - to either accept and allow yourself to disempower yourself and spiral in the realm of the mind or to decide to empower yourself and stand as a support structure for yourself in stopping and not accepting and allowing the reaction inside of you to direct you, which from there you can see clearly the direction that you can give to yourself.

So in the context of our personal and individual processes, we are making a decision in every given moment – whether it is conscious decision or unconscious decision BUT a decision is always made by us. Many times in my process I found myself in a momentary possession where it literally felt like a war zone inside of myself wherein one part of me can clearly see how and why I am compromising myself during each moment that I accept and allow the reaction to continue inside of myself and the other part of me wants to continue and justify the validity of the reaction and not let go its right to exists inside of me. In these moments, a decision must be made, to which part of me am I going to “listen” for a lack of better word – the one where I accept and allow myself to be disempowered by my own mind or the part that can and will take responsibility for what I have accepted and allowed within the self-trust that no matter what consequences I’ve already created, I stand and I will invest the time and effort to correct and align myself based on the principles that I decided to live by. Meaning, whether I will accept and allow the reaction to continue (self-disempowerment), or whether I will stop participating with the reaction and take responsibility (self empowerment) – I am the one that is making the decision for/as myself.

Here comes the tricky part – I often look at my life and I see limitations in being able to direct myself and/or create a reality that is best for myself and others. I used to see that as disempowerment being forced onto me but that is the mistake that I’ve made – physical limitations does not mean disempowerment as with any circumstances, we have the power to direct ourselves with the consideration of what is available here. We can decide to feel disempowered and give up OR we can decide to work with that which is here and still direct ourselves as what is best in any given moment.

For example, I can sit and cry the whole day about how difficult life  is or I can decide to do something about it. When I decide to do something about it, it doesn’t mean that I will be successful in my application or will see satisfactory results – but what is certain is that I will keep and find ways and/or align the direction until I become successful within the goals that I set forth for myself. An example, when I moved to SA, I refused to learn Afrikaans because I thought that I will not be successful in learning another language based on my school experiences so from the get go, I disempowered myself by believing my own mind that I’m not capable of learning a new language. Until one day, I made a decision to stop accepting and allowing my own self-disempowerment and to instead invest the time and effort to learn Afrikaans. Once I made the decision, learning Afrikaans became easy because I know that the amount of time and effort I will put into learning a new language, the faster I will see the results that I placed for myself as goals. The first step was to make the decision to empower myself and learn a new language and the second step is to continue making the decision every time I am exposed to a new word in Afrikaans that I want to integrate. Me making the decision to learn Afrikaans doesn’t mean that I will learn Afrikaans if I will not make a decision in any moment that I am exposed to learning Afrikaans if that make sense. This is where giving up is coming from, from us not understanding that it is not one singular decision to change and change is manifesting, it is a consistent decision to change in real time moment of facing the point in our reality and make a conscious decision to change.

So, at one stage you find yourself in a point where you say:  Enough is Enough. We find ourselves looping around the same pattern, knowing where the point will lead us, what consequences we will create if we continue participating in a specific pattern because we’ve already investigated and yet, nothing changed. That is because we haven’t really made the choice to change in real time moment and we allowed ONE singular thought to spiral inside of ourselves instead of just saying to ourselves – enough, I had enough of this now.

The bottom line is - for us to empower ourselves as a living expression of ourselves and really change - the power of making a decision/choice must be understood and applied. Will continue in the next blog post.

Self-Empowerment - Practical Living (Part 2) - Day 510

In my previous post I ended off with:

 

"In the next post we will move from being aware of the structural lines of information to practical living in how to assist and support ourselves to actually move from the mind reality that is limited to the layers of information we stored inside of ourselves into the physical reality where possibilities and opportunity of self-empowerment and change actually exists."

 

With the example in the previous post, we had a look at how one image of a luxurious car activated different lines of information and each line of information thereafter spiraled into further lines of information. This essentially means that we shifted away from the physical reality and moved into the realm of our minds, in isolation.

For myself, I found these quantum time shifts from the physical reality to be very disempowering because in these moments, I am not the directive principle of my own reality as I gave my power of direction away to one singular image (or it can be anything from sound to movement and so forth).

 

Disempowerment in the sense that - with activating these lines of information that we access to in a quantum moment, we prevent a direct physical seeing of reality for what it is, through which we are unable to effectively move to solutions but instead we remain in reactive state of being. (If you haven't already, I suggest reading: From Reaction to Prevention and the Correction Process - Day 239) where I described the 'WHY' remaining in a reactive state is counterproductive for yourselves and the people in your environment and how instead, we must assist and support ourselves to move into the solution in changing our living application to one that is of self-integrity and worth).

 

Many times I asked myself after the effect (after I stepped out of a reaction) - "But why??? Why the hell did I shift again to the same line of information in the mind? Why despite of me being aware of this tendency of mine to react to a specific event, I am unable to effectively support myself to change and stop my participation with this line of thoughts/information?"

 

In other times I find my in moments of emotional reaction in a fighting mode with myself where one part of me is seeing clearly the absolutely ridiculousness of continuing participation with the reaction and the other part of me is saying "but, but, but… but I am right to react the way I am" type of thing. Here I was questioning 'why despite of me seeing clearly how I compromise and disempowering myself, I still experience a fight within myself?

 

Then there are also those times where I stopped participation in real time moment and didn't allow myself to follow the layers of information in the mind but then the next moment came by and very quickly I went into  point of disempowerment where I follow the layered information with a reaction. Here I was asking myself - how is it that in one moment I could stop participating but in the next moment, I so quickly went into the mind, following layers of information within a reaction inside of myself?

 

With looking at these questions that I asked myself, I found couple of interesting dimensions that contribute to why I was not effectively applying change in a real time moment:

1. The decision to change was not clear.
2. I am moving too fast in the mind and not supporting myself to slow down.
3. There is something behind the scenes that I haven't investigated/seen yet.
4. The red flags that I placed for myself were incomplete.

 

In the next post we will have a look at these dimensions and start practically to support ourselves to make a decision to change in real time moment and follow through on this decision.

Self-Empowerment - Practical Living (Part 1) Day 509

 

 

In starting to be aware of our preprogram tendencies of reactions for example, it is one thing to be aware of our reactional tendencies but it is a whole different ball game to actually do something about it and practically change our living behavior to one that is of self-integrity and self-worth. What do I mean by that?

 

Our mind is intertwined with so many layers of information which we stored inside ourselves over the years. Layers of information would be memories, experiences, beliefs, opinions, emotions and feelings that we have attached to internal and/or external stimulations as for instance - pictures and images, smells, voice tonality, body language and so forth. So when an external or internal picture is coming up in our reality, we will have a specific pattern that we will follow, based on the layers of information that we have stored inside of ourselves. For example: Let's say that we see a picture in our reality of luxurious car that we have associated with wealth and success and as we see that car, lines of information is starting to come up in our minds:

 

-> Seeing luxurious car

->-> Memory of someone saying that if you have this car, it mean that you've become successful in this world

->->-> But oh shame, I don't have this car nor will I have in my future

->->->-> this means that I am a failure

->->->->-> How can I be successful?

->->->->->-> It is not my fault that I am not yet successful, it is the system fault

(or my parents fault, or my employees fault and so on)

 

->->I am so jealous at the guy that is driving that car

->->-> He must have a lot of money

->->-> He must have lots of women around him

->->-> He must have extraordinary life

->->->-> I am useless

->->->->-> I wish I could have so much money

->->->->->-> My life is going nowhere

 

->-> I hate my car

->->-> I need to take my car for a service

->->->-> this is going to cost so much money

->->->->-> where will I get the money for the service

->->->->->-> maybe I should take another loan from the bank

->->->->->->-> OMG I don't know what to do

 

->-> I hope my wife didn't see that car

->->-> because then she will be frustrated with me for not making so much money

->->->-> I hope my wife won't leave me for a rich guy

->->->->-> I must do something special for my wife

->->->->->-> But what will I do? I don't have money to spend on luxury stuff for my wife.

 

So this is just an example of how one image of a luxurious car can activate chain of thoughts/information inside of ourselves based on the experiences/memories/emotions/feelings that we have associated with that image or picture of for instance, a luxurious car.

 

What we must realize here is the quantum speed of how information moves in our minds - we may not be aware of all the information that moved in our minds, we may not remember that we actually had these thoughts coming up in that singular moment of when we saw the luxurious car because the information moved so fast inside of ourselves where we shifted so quickly from one set of information to the next set of information. I mean how many times we found ourselves asking ourselves: "How did I start thinking about that topic now? How did I get to think about that now?"

 

Being aware of these lines of thoughts in its structure like has described above is one of the first steps that one must look at in their process of change. For that, if you haven't already, I suggest investigating and investing in Self Development, Empowerment and Awareness course to assist you with getting to know how your mind has been conditioned to the layers of information that you have layered inside of yourself over the years as well as learning the self-help tools that you are able to apply for yourself to empower yourself to change your conditioned behavioral patterned to a living application of growth and worth. For more information, please visit: Life Skills & Self-Mastery Online Courses

 

In the next post we will move from being aware of the structural lines of information to practical living in how to assist and support ourselves to actually move from the mind reality that is limited to the layers of information we stored inside of ourselves into the physical reality where possibilities and opportunity of self-empowerment and change actually exists.

 

 

 

From Disempowerment to Self-Empowerment - Day 459

The feeling of disempowerment either in intimate relationship and/or partnership is detrimental on the individual level as one is accepting and allowing one's reaction of being disempowered to be one's directive principle and within that, one is in fact placing oneself in a disempowered position in how one is then directing the relationship/partnership.

 

Now, when/if one do not take absolute self responsibility for one's reaction of feeling disempowered, the mind will take responsibility and perpetuate the experience within oneself, making the experience worse than what it actually is within one's eyes. Obviously, within that scenario, where one do not take responsibility for one's experiences, the relationship/partnership will lead to devastated path as one would keep justifying for oneself why one feels disempowered within the relationship/partnership and would in essence, give up on oneself and oneself in relationship to the relationship/partnership.

 

What I have found for myself was that as long as I'm reacting as an experience of feeling disempowered, I am creating myself as disempowered and within that, abdicating my responsibility to direct the relationship/partnership within the principle of that which is best for all. I also found that as long as I'm reacting, I'm unable to direct points effectively because within the reactions, I'm not seeing everything clearly - I don't see the source of the reactions, I do not see the other within their own process and I do not see what is best for all within that moment in time.

 

The interesting thing is that when I go and "direct" the point with another, while still being in a reaction, I would then perpetuate my experience of disempowerment because in my mind, I've now tried to direct the point and I failed again or in other words, I feel even more disempowered than before. The fact of the matter is that it is not so much that the outcome is being more disempowered, but rather the physical reality is showing me is that it is useless to direct points with another when I'm in a reaction, even the slightest reaction, because the direction that I'm giving to the point is limited since the reaction is creating a narrow view of reality which do not allows me to direct a point within the principle of what is best for all but rather, what is best to perpetuate my own self-definition of feeling disempowered.

 

In many cases, I found that I would justify for myself my experience of feeling disempowered in relation to another by telling myself things like: "it's already to late, the point had already moved" which is a statement of giving up however, the next thought would be "we'll have to now wait for consequences to manifest" which is actually a very interesting design because what this type of thoughts represent is  an attempt to empower myself within my own mind as in waiting for consequences to manifest so that I can then "prove" my original point and in the future say: "I told you so" as a mean of taking back my authority and power. The other dimension within these type of thoughts is Spite whereas, waiting for consequences to manifest is another way of saying: "fuck this, I am willing to let this all thing fall" without realizing that harm and damage that the spite holds whereas I am willing to destroy what we have build together so that I could through consequences, gain my power within the point.

 

So, what does it all show - firstly, we are the only ones who are creating our experience of self-disempowered as we have accepted and allowed ourselves to define ourselves as such when we accepted and allowed a reaction to exists within and as ourselves. From this moment onwards, the direction that we would give to the point would be from the starting point of wanting to feel empowered again and so, the direction isn't aligned with what is best for all but rather, what is best for us to feel empowered again without realizing that this is based on a feeling, an experience, instead of walking the path of creating ourselves as self-empowered as a living expression of ourselves and the only way to walk the path is to stop the reactions within oneself so that one can actually see what is best for all on a physical level, in any given moment.

 

The next point is - what can we do when a direction was already given by our partner without our full clarity, agreement in relation to a specific point? Here, what I found is that I must again, first stop my reaction in relation to a direction being given without my full consent because if I allow a reaction here, I am not able to assess whether the direction that was given is in alignment to the principle that I stand for/as - walking the direction which will manifest the result that is best for all because the reaction in itself manifesting a veil within my mind that is blinding me from seeing the physical outflows of the direction that was given and if I cannot see all the possible outflows, I cannot determine whether the direction is best for all.

Then, when I'm absolutely clear within myself, and I've looked at all the points/outflows/outcomes I can direct the point whereas, if the direction that was given is aligned with what is best for all, I would do everything possible to support the way forwards and if the point is not aligned with what is best for all, I would discuss the point with  the other, share with them what I see  so that together, we can consider all the points and align the direction.

 

The next point of direction within that scenario is to align our relationship/partnership where we make sure that all decisions are made when the point is clear within ourselves and within that, we stand by our commitment to make the relationship/partnership strong within the principle of "2 or more in my name".

 

What does it mean 2 or more in my name – will discuss in blogs to come.

 

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Artwork by Johanna Harmon