to explore the consequences of not being honest with ourselves and thus
accepting and allowing self-judgement to exists inside of ourselves, mostly
projected through the eyes of others. In today post, we'll have a look at
another potential consequence of participating with self-judgement projected as
living in fear of being judged by others.
of being judged may starts in a very young age where you feel that you need to
hide or do things in secrets because other people may have issues with what you
do and you didn't have the courage to speak up and open this point in
communication. It is mostly as a teen when the parents are trying to protect
the child from the dangerous of the world, not understanding that the children
will go and rebel and do exactly what the parents are trying to control. I
personally went against the feeling of being judged by doing things in secret
and only shared with those who I knew to not have any issues with it.
with the fear of being judged creates the experience of being controlled and
although you will go and do the things you want to do, you will always feel you
need to do these things in secret and that in itself compromises the integrity
of your relationships with others.The
feeling of being controlled is due to the fact that you project your own
judgement (with regards to the things you do in secrets) to the people in your
environment, believing that if they would know what you do in secret, they will
either look down at you or reject you in one way or another.
consequence outflow here is that you will always blame and judge other people
for allegedly judging you; and you may feel that you need to get away, to run
away because your environment is closing down on you; you will feel trapped in
your own environment and you'll have a growing force to leave all together and
try making it in a new environment.
it is you, living in fear in your mind, not willing to be honest with yourself
in what you stand for and who you are to a point of respecting yourself enough
to be able to communicate about it with others. Once you reach a point of
self-honesty, you won't live in secret anymore because you'll stand very clear
in who you are regardless of what anyone can potentially think of you.
you want to develop relationship of worth with people, it is of utmost
importance you become honest with yourself and stop judging your own
self-honesty. The integrity with people you have relationship cannot be
compromised by secrets and hidden information/expression because of fears that
may only exists in your own mind.
step in assisting and supporting yourself to reach a point of self honesty as
well as stopping participating with self-judgement is to apply this: when you
think another is judging you, ask yourself: "Am I clear within this point
or is it me that is judging myself through the eyes of the person who is in
front of me?" This is to identify whether you are dealing with
self-judgement or not.
second step is to identify the source of your self-judgement and in the case
you need additional support with that, you can always leave me a message or
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