May 11, 2013 | By: A Woman

Does your child really have a behaviour disorder? (Part 2) - Day 364

This is a continuation to Does your child really have a behaviour disorder? (Part 1) - Day 363 where the main question asked is: Who is Responsible for our Children's Education?


It is clear by now that most of the "psychological" problems that are now being qualified and identified as psychiatric problems that requires medication have nothing to do with the biology of the human physical body and thus, it is fair to assume that the problem isn't really the child's behaviour but rather the environment of the child and within that a dysfunctional education system and untrained parents that stand as an effective example for the child and yet again, instead of sorting out the core of the problem and prevent the problem from even manifesting, we jump into the quick fix solution by medicating the child and manipulating their parents that were never train to question the system, question the source of the problem but rather were trained to accept the flaws in the system and obey.


What has been defined as behaviour problems is a simple result of ineffective communication - the children that are eager to express themselves and have not yet developed an effective vocabulary to express themselves are behaving in ways that for us seems to be unacceptable because we judge that which we do not understand.

So, let's take an example of an ordinary events in a child's life and how it can influence the child's behaviour to a degree where the parents believe that there is something wrong with the child, without understanding how they are directly responsible for the child's "sudden" bad behaviour and therefore, with the belief that there is now something wrong with the child's behaviour, they will turn to the doctor that would very easily lable the child and may even medicate the child:


So, the child is young and the family owns a puppy. The mother throw a ball for the dog to catch and the dog catch the ball, very excited, bring the ball back so that the mom can throw the ball again which is what the mother obviously does because why not? It is a playful event. And while this is happening, the child is observing the event: the energies around, the mother expression, the dog expression and everyone are happy and having fun. Little do we know that in that very moment, what the child may also register in their mind as a memory is the movement made by the mother when she is throws the ball for the dog to catch. So now imagine for a moment what the movement can look like when the child do not have yet any previous knowledge or information regarding the implication of this playful event of throwing the ball. Yes, you guessed right, it does look like a arm going from the body, towards the skies, straightening up and going down. So from a child perspective that movement indicate a fun experience isn't it?

So now the child goes to the kindergarten and oooops, there is another kid playing with a ball that looks exactly like the ball the mother was playing with the dog just the other day. And now, a memory comes up and the kid may use their arm with a positive meaning attached to it however, the outcome may be very negative because now, the child hit the other child with the very same movement the mother did the other day when she playfully throw the ball for the dog to catch. And… the child is now showing "symptoms" of "wrongly" behaviour while all along, the child was sure that he was playing. But all the teachers in the kindergarten were reacting to the experience, and suddenly there is a total mess, children are crying, screaming and OMG, what just happen?? Oh, yes, we know, the child has behaviour problem.


So you see, we really do not know what innocent playful events can be interpreted by the child and we do not have the skills to make sure that every single input the child register is the input that would result with an output that is best for all and instead of investigating the cause of sudden "behaviour" problems, we react and immediately label the child as a violent child that requires medication to calm down.


More to come in the next blog.


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