Stop, Breathe, Direct - Day 440

A few days ago, I was writing about the difference between Reaction and Response and I promised to share more examples for us to see how a small change in one's living application creates a big change in one's relationship to oneself and others.

 

So, within walking this point of correction, in terms of correcting my preprogram design whereas I had the tendency to quickly judge something or someone as a reaction within myself, to a living application of 'Direct seeing' the physical reality, the relationship that the physical reality based on and accordingly, response to that which is presented 'here' at any given moment as a living directive principle.

 

Obviously, it is very important to understand that getting to a point of 'direct seeing' isn't manifesting in one moment as a separate moment in time. It is a process that I'm busy walking where I accumulate moments of correction and slowly but surely, 'Directly See' will emerge as a living expression of myself.

Many may confuse the term 'Direct seeing' to 'Enlightenment' so here is to make it very clear -

One must realize, as I did, that there is no quick fix and that Enlightenment is a point that the spiritual people invented to avoid taking responsibility for our physical reality within the hope that in one moment they will change and everything will be peaceful and magnificent. No - this is not what direct seeing is all about - Direct seeing is a skill acquired by oneself through walking one process of correction on a Physical level, there is nothing special about it, in fact, it is quite normal if we really look at it. What is abnormal is the fact that we do not yet have direct seeing to that which is here on a physical level. Each one of us has the potential and the only thing that separate us from becoming the potential we can become is ourselves through the separate relationship we have created with our mind, the physical and ourselves.

 

After this little disclaimer (lol) I want to share here how I was able to assist and support myself today to move from Reaction to Response within one specific moment and how I commit myself to continue to support myself in perfecting such moments wherein I would move in a quantum moment to response as an expression of myself instead of allowing a moment of reaction to direct me. Let me explain -

 

As you know, in Desteni we work with the principle of cross referencing, double checking, aligning, cross referencing again and so forth. I was double checking that a point was applied by another because the projects we are working on always consists of multiple people collaborating and within each project, each one has a responsibility for a specific point however, we all stand as a cross reference point for one another. 

I was cross referencing today that a specific and new task was done to its completion and I found out that somewhere along the line, the point was not done. Within myself, I reacted and judged the other for not walking their responsibility effectively and within and through the reaction, I took the task on myself and directed it but again, as a reaction that I have experienced within myself and thus, it was not as a living expression of myself as a response. This type of reaction is within the nature of Control which is another point that I'm currently busy changing and correcting. (Also see - Can Life be Controlled - Day 416)

 

Then, I realized that I was reacting, as my physical body changed in terms of being more constricted and firm, I stopped, I breathed and I checked the information because whenever there is a point of judgment within myself, there is information that I didn't consider. Meaning - I could only judge that which I don't understand. I started tracing back the information, seeing that everything and everyone are on the same page, that all of us has the same information or access to the same information and so I found that the person that I was previously judging and reacting to, do not have access to the information that I had and therefore, practically and physically, the being couldn't apply their responsibility.

 

I realized that the fact that the being didn't realize that their responsibility was not applied was because from the get go, the being didn't have all the information and from that perspective, they didn't even know what is it that they are responsible for. This is the being point to investigate within themselves as to why they have accepted and allowed themselves to take a point without having all the information and making sure they are clear on what the responsibility practically implies however, if I would to only judge them and thus taking the responsibility from them, there is no way that I could see what was missed by all parties and accordingly, I would not be standing in a position of supporting myself nor them within it all; I would not be standing in a position where I could show them where they have missed the point of making sure the task is clear and applicable and within that, what the responsibility of this task practically implies.

 

Here, I showed to myself again that reacting and judging is counterproductive as it leaves the problem without any resolution where all the participants are limited in their ability to take their responsibilities back to ourselves and walk the practical correction/solution.

Thus, when I found the source of the problem, I could direct the point and ensure that the task is applied into perfection  and that was when I moved to response whereas I first identified the problem and then presented a solution, cross referenced with others that the solution is valid, applicable and effective so that all of us could move to correction within our physical living application of the responsibilities that we took on for ourselves.

 

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The difference between Reaction and Response - Day 438

I was doing shopping on the supermarket today and it was quite busy in there. The man behind me ran over my foot with his trolley and as I felt the pain, a surge of anger possessed me, as a reaction within myself. I snapped at the guy and yelled at him.

When I investigated the moment of Anger that came up with the pain, I realize that I missed a breath and allowed my preprogram design to kick in and within that, I acted out of reaction instead of a response.

 

Moving from a reaction to a response is a point I'm currently working on in terms of correcting my preprogram design of reaction and instead taking a moment to see the points clearly and with clarity, directing the point to its upmost potential. Directing the point to its fullest potential is what I define as 'response' in terms of seeing that there is a problem and only direct within stability, after looking at all the points and seeing the best path to walk that would eventually lead to the best for all outcome.   

 

So for instance within the example of someone running over me with his trolley in the supermarket - Obviously, snapping at him and reacting to the pain that I've experienced within myself is not acceptable. What would be beneficial in these situations is - firstly, take a moment and stabilize my human physical body. Here, one must take a breath and realize that the pain won't go away just because we reacted and yelled at the person; actually, the opposite will probably manifest - the snapping point is the Adrenalin that is produced from the source of the pain and with yelling at another, we actually perpetuating the adrenalin and making the pain worse.

The fascinating thing is that when a sharp pain is manifesting, making a specific sound within stabilizing the body may be supportive though it would be a constant sound, like ' hammmm' sound that is coming from our beingness as a decision we made within ourselves to support ourselves to stabilize the body.

 

Anyway, the second step is to assess the environment - In the example that I shared, I snapped at the guy for not considering his physical environment BUT - it was actually me who didn't consider my physical environment. The moment he ran over me, was the moment I saw LJ and Maite and I stopped for a moment to talk to them. I saw them coming towards me and I knew that I would stop for a moment and yet, I didn't let the guy behind me be aware of what I was aware that is going to happened. Meaning, I could have directed my environment by either signal LJ and Maite to move to the left so that we won't stop in the middle of the place where lots of traffic is taking place; or - I could let the guy behind me know that I'm going to stop for a moment and that he need to bypass me.

 

But let's say that LJ and Maite would not be around - in the case most likely that if the guy would have to run over me with his trolley, it would be because the guy was somewhere in his mind and didn't notice that I'm right in front of him - instead of yelling at him after the event, I could have talk to him and show him what is the consequences of being so much in the mind without considering the physical reality and if I would to do that, it would be a response rather than a reaction that would not support neither myself or the other being to actually learn from one's mistake and apply the correction in one's living application.

 

This is a very simple example of the difference between Reaction and Response. As time goes by, I will share more examples so that we can all learn from each other reactions and start moving to response to effectively direct ourselves and our environment in ways that would empower ourselves and others instead of diminishing ourselves and others.

 

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