Do I have the right to judge myself? - Placing yourself in danger - Hiding and running away - Day 535

For context, please read:

Do you have the right to judge another - Day 531

Do I have the right to Judge myself? Potential consequences #1 - Day 532

Do I have the right to Judge myself? Living in an experience of being controlled - Day 533

Do I have the right to judge myself - Living in fear of being judged by others - Day 534

This will be the last blog post in the series: "Do I have the right to judge myself" where we were looking at the potential consequences that may emerge with us accepting and allowing self-judgement to exists inside ourselves and how to transform the self-judgement to self-honesty in the sense of who you are, what you stand for and what you will and will not accept and allow in your reality.

In this blog thus, we will have a look at the relationship between self-judgement, self-honesty and the experience of wanting to run away? Why Self-honesty is the key to stop the experience of running away and how it will lead to worthwhile relationships with yourself and with your friends/partner/family.

As we previously discussed, sometimes the intensity of self-judgement will lead to the experience of wanting to run away from our environment. Mostly because we feel controlled by the environment and unable to express ourselves without the fear of being judged. Now, I do not need to tell you the risks involved in running away do I?

But this is not so much the consequences that I am referring to. The point that I do want to discuss in this blog post is why reaching your self-honesty can stop the experience of wanting to run away. It is actually a simple point to realize - unless you are clear about who you are and what you stand for, you will find yourself in situations of wanting to run away from one environment to another; always feeling controlled, misjudged and looked down at by your external environment. The moment you are clear and honest about who you are, what you want to create in this life, what you stand for and what you do not, self-judgement will not hold you prisoned in your own environment as you stand as a point of direction and creation no matter where you are and with whom you are.

See, it is never the environment we want to run away from - it is our mind that we want to run away from. Sure, the environment activates the mind programs that gives us the experience of wanting to run away but it is not that the environment puts a gun on our mind and force the mind to participate in these emotions and thought patterns - it was and will be us who give the authority for the mind to take control over our lives and dictate to us who we are.

As explained in the previous blogs, when we run away and "start over", we don't really start over - we are simply supressing the unresolved issues that we have with ourselves (self-judgement for different reasons) and these issues will surface at some stage in the new environment we are with - It will slowly build up and build up until we experience ourselves wanting to run away and start over again.

The solution is to reach a point of self-honesty as challenging as it may be. We'll have to take off the layers of self-judgement, morality, fears, cultural behaviour and so forth and replace it with your life principles that we stand by and as an expression of ourselves. This can take some time but sure is liberating when moving from self-judgement to self-honesty.

Why self-honesty is the key? When we are self-honest, self-judgement doesn't play a role. When self-judgement isn't playing a role, we are no longer projecting blame and judgment towards others, we no longer fear being judged, we no longer feel controlled by others and we no longer experience ourselves wanting to run away.

How to reach a point of self-honesty? For myself, it has been and still is a process. My support structure is the DIP pro course that I am participating with both as a trainee and as a buddy. I strongly recommend having a look and testing the course for yourself. Especially if building effective relationship with yourself and others is something you value.

Thanks.

Understanding the Design of Jealousy is the Road to Relationship Success - Day 314

Jealousy as a Design, is something we all faced or still facing throughout our lives and we all understand that Jealousy is one the components that sabotage and compromise one's relationships with other human beings.

 

When listening to the Relationship Success Support with regards to Jealousy, I now see, realize and understand the extent of the Design and more importantly, I understand that there is much more to uncover within the Dimensions and Layers of one single point such as Jealousy and if we take it one step further, and one would listen to the Parenting - Perfecting the Human Race, one would see where these Designs are first being introduced in the Child Life which would influence and direct all of one's relationships in one's life.

If we continue walking further in our self investigation and thus, assist and support ourselves through studying the 'Quantum Mind - Self Awareness' we would start understanding the Entire Scoop of How, why and Where we have Designed who we have become and its relationship with the Relationship we form with ourselves and others in our lives.

 

So back to the Point of Jealousy and specifically, Jealousy within Relationships -

Exactly like with the Point of Shame that opened up a few days ago, where we explained how Shame as a Definition was manipulated, misrepresented, diverted and distorted and thus, what should have been our Key to Self Realization as a point of Self Motivation to in fact change ourselves and thus this world as ourselves, is now being lived as a point of Negativity; as a distraction; as a reaction to the Problem instead of taking the responsibility for and as oneself and walk the Process of sorting out the Problem from its core/source/origin and therefore, prevent the problem from reoccurring again.

Jealousy is based on the same Principle - Jealousy is promoted in the Media within Movies, Magazines and TV series, Jealousy is promoted in the Education System in the Form of Competition and most importantly, it is introduce to the Child Life already in the first 7 years either with a new sibling that join the Family, through the parents Dynamics that the child would pick up or through the experience of Ownership of toys and etc.

 

So - Jealousy as a design was completely misunderstood and we normally have the tendency to judge and fear that which we do not understand which again, is nothing but another form of distraction from sorting out the problem from its core/root/source platform and accordingly, walk the solution necessary to Stop the Problem and Prevent it.

The real Problem was that up until a few years ago, we didn't have any access to true understanding of the relationships between the physical body, the Mind and ourselves within it which is the root/source/core of the problems that are accepted and allowed in this world as we are the creators of this world as it is today. However now, we do have access to the practical understanding with the assistance and support of the EQAFE interviews so a suggestion here is to invest in the studies presented on EQAFE to assist and support yourself to sort out the problems you are facing through seeing, realizing and understanding the core/source/root of your design and apply the necessary tools to Perfect yourself as a human being and thus, get to a point of Successful relationship with yourself and others in this world because then, we could actually start considering the practical steps in specificity of what needs to be done and how to do it in order to change this system to a system that would be in the image and likeness of ourselves as ourselves would represent in practical living application the Principle of LIFE that is best for all.