It is a known fact
that unresolved emotions and feeling can affect and compromise our physical
body. Yet, many of us refuse to acknowledge this fact and thus allow ourselves
to continue bottling up with massive anger, hatred, blame, judgement and so
forth.
It is also a known
fact that Anger and similar intense emotions can sabotage our relationships
with our loved ones, threaten our career and our social life as a whole. Yet,
most of us will not step back for a moment and really investigate the core
cause of our anger and other intensified emotions.
In the last couple
of years, we hear more and more about 'Anger management' programs.
"Anger management is a procedure of acquiring
the skills to recognize signs that you are becoming angry, and taking action to
deal with the situation in a positive way. In no way does anger management mean
holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger. Anger is a normal
human emotion, a healthy one when it is expressed appropriately. "
Medical News Today :
Your source for health news since 2003. www.medicalnewstoday.com
"(psychology) techniques or exercises used to
control or reduce feelings and the expression of anger"
Collins English
Dictionary - http://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/anger-management
"Anger management is the process of learning to
recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and
deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep
you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in. Anger is a normal,
healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately — anger
management is about learning how to do this."
Mayo Clinic - http://www.mayoclinic.org/
It is fascinating to
see how our professional society defines Anger as 'healthy' or 'normal human
emotion' and within that validate the existence of anger inside of ourselves.
Shocking news
people!!!! anger is not healthy or normal human behaviour. In fact, studies
shows that anger can be deadly:
"Anger's physical side effects explain why you
frequently see studies about the damage that this emotion can do to our bodies.
In one study of almost 13,000 subjects, individuals with the highest levels of
anger had twice the risk of coronary artery disease and three times the risk of
heart attack, as compared to the subjects with the lowest levels of anger
[source: Kam]. Some
scientists think that chronic anger may be more dangerous than smoking and
obesity as a factor that will contribute to early death [source: Angier]."
So then, what are
the solution for people with anger issues?
Well, as with
everything in life, nothing will change unless we each take responsibility for
our creation. So as with taking responsibility in acknowledging that anger
isn't normal or needed in anyway whatsoever. On a personal level - there is a
difference between letting go of anger and manging anger. Managing your anger
means that you are still holding on to your anger on the deep level of your
mind. Letting go of the anger means that you have sourced the root cause of
your anger, you have taken authority inside of yourself to let go of your anger
and you have forgiven yourself for participating with anger towards yourself or
others. In reality, like with every real process, there isn't a quick fix -
changing to a point of being 'free' of anger will take time and personal effort
to affect a real change inside of yourself. Manging anger takes care of the
symptoms of the problem while acknowledging that anger is valid. Letting
unconditionally go of anger is a process that source the root cause, through
the layers of the mind to practically affect a real life change.
Where to go next -
look for self-help guides that help you source the root cause of your inner
anger so that you are able to absolutely let go of anger inside of yourself. A
good place to start with is a self-development program called DIP Lite - it is a free online
course that teach you the basic tools to understand your mind, both
theoretically and practically.
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Art work - Anger by Gun Legler
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